About Jessica Main Expertise Any questions and/or concerns you have regarding being part of an interracial relationship. Including but not limited to... outsider's views and opinions, family's thoughts and concerns and raising biracial children.
Experience I am the 30 year old white Mommy to two beautiful, biracial daughters. Engaged to be married to a gorgeous Jamaican man. I've gone through the "what ifs" the "oh nos" and the "whys". I can help You through all of Yours.
Education/Credentials 1996 Graduate of Warren Area High School, current student of U.S. Career Institute,gaining certificate in Fitness and Nutrition.
Question Hi, I have a little bit of a problem. I'm a 22 year old black male. My ex and I have been friends for a long time. We broke up on good terms and still talk every now and then. If fact the only reason we broke up was because she moved out of state, and I joined the Air Force shortly after. She has this boyfriend whom I've never met. Last night he got pissed that we were texting each other and sent me some really ugly text messages. I figured he was just being a jealous boyfriend and told him he had the wrong idea, and to grow up. He then called me stupid nigger several times, told me to stop texting his girl, and hung up. I can't help but wonder how Linda could date such a racist fool after having a black boyfriend. I treated her well and never disrespected her or her friends. What should I do?
Answer Hi Kristopher,
First, allow me to apologize for having made you wait so long for a reply.
Only Linda knows why she has feelings for a "racist" man. If you are good enough friends as you say, you could ask her and hope she gives you an honest answer. This man is insecure about himself or he would have no problems with You and Linda maintaining your friendship. At this point, I think you need to leave it up to her. Send her ONE text asking when would be a good time to "talk", and contact her at the time she gives you. Tell her how her man made you feel and ask her the same question you asked me. Ask her if she would be uncomfortable maintaining contact with you since her man made it so perfectly clear how he feels. Listen to the tone of her voice and let her know that you do not want to create problems. This has to be HER decision if you are to do this in a mature manner. Let her call the shots even if it's not the answer you want. Go from there...should you need me, I'm just a message away. I'd be more than happy to do a follow-up for you. Let me know how it goes and if I can be of more assistance to you. I hope this helps.
In Light,
Jesi
