Expert: Melissa Burton (a.k.a Bee) - 8/31/2006

Question
Hi. I am a 20 year old black girl. All my life I've found myself attracted to white boys which is fine by me and my family doesn't have a problem with it. But my problem is knowing whether they are interested in me. I know a lot of white guys haven't even considered dating a black girl. How do you introduce them to the idea. Also some are willing to try it for the sexual part. But I dont believe in premartial sex. I guess what I'm trying to say is how do I approach a white guy and tell if he is interested? Thanks

Answer
Hello
Well the best way to do this is to just start talking to a white guy. Become good friends with them and remember to flirt. True, some guys may be attracted to different things but everyone is always willing to try something exotic. So let them see how sexy you can be and flirt and let them get to know you. If they don't seem to like you then maybe you should try someone else. No matter what race or ethnicity you are from not every guy will like you. So go for someone who seems open minded and remember to be confident. I've seen plenty of white guys go with black girls, including myself being one of them. So it is possible to have a serious long term relationship with a white guy. Just give it a chance, be friendly and show them they don't have to be intimidated by you, and smile and look beautiful, and someday you'll find that white guy made just for you. Let me know how things go and good luck finding that special man! Take care!
Melissa