About Melissa Burton (a.k.a Bee) Expertise I can help you with anything you need to know about interracial dating. I myself have been in many relationship with different races. I have also experienced when your parents are not accepting of who you want to date. So if you ever need advice feel free to ask me.
Experience I have dated many guys of various races,cultures and religions.I have also helped many of my friends who had dated different races. Also I've been in different high school and college related organizations.
I've been with my Brit Indian (born in Britain, his parents are from Indian) boyfriend for a year now. He has yet to tell his family about us. The reason he gave is they wouldn't like me, as I don't have a 'career' and neither does he currently. If he did they wouldn't be concerned what work I did.
He says it's not because I'm white, although they'd prefer if he would go with an Indian girl as she would know the culture and would be able to speak Punjabi. His family are very wealthy, his Dad owns a successful business and are highly respected in their community. His sister had an arranged marriage and his brother is shortly to do the same. He is their last and youngest child.
He had a white girlfriend a few years ago, she even lived with him and his parents for a while, but apparently they disliked her for the same reasons, lacking a career. Later they moved away but she cheated on him and left him. He now says his parents would not tolerate the same situation again.
Does this sound like fairly typical behaviour of Sikh parents? Career and financally driven before all else? It's upsetting me intensely, all the sneaking around.
Thanks for your time.
Answer Hey Amie
Well most parents would want their children to date someone who was finacially driven and had a good career or had sound goals in their life. So I think that's typical of most parensts. Many parents would be upset by that. But it depends on the age. It would be unfair of his parents to expect this if you were in your 20s and still young and unsure of your career goals but I think a parent would feel justified if the person was in their late 20s or above and didn't have a career. Really I think this has nothing to do with their ethnicity. Their culture may stress career a little bit more than others but I think many parents would disapprove of someone who did not have a career or at the very least a career goal. but if they would not tolerate this then it might be a part of their culture. It's one thing if they dislike you for it but another if they don't tolerate you for it. Any ways he should really tell them. They should not disown him over you not having a career especially when their own son doesn't have one.
Melissa
