Expert: Melissa Burton (a.k.a Bee) - 5/2/2006

Question
What do you mean by phsyical appearence exactly?   
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        I am not trying to sound racist or something... but some have actually told me and I also get this impression at times... But I sometimes wonder if the trends in interracial dating are pretty much based on penis size.

    I always hear white guys saying that if you go to Asian countries... you will get allot a sex because they are tired of the size of Asian men... and I hear white guys say that a reason they would date an Asian girl because of their size.

    I have never heard or seen white or black women ever expressed the slightest interest in Indian or Asian men or date them… Like I have a Korean friend name Jae-Wan… He told me and a friend that he is more interested in white girl and other races, than Korean girls, because he has known of Asian women most of his life and wants something different.  My friend told him that is not possible because white girls don't like small penis.  â€œDon't Asian men have small penises?â€?, my friend asked.  Jae-Wan replies, “Yes they do…â€? and my friend says, “There you goâ€?  I was so speechless… I didn't know what to say… I wanted to punch my friend… that was really mean of him… I don't care how right he is.

    I hardly see black female-white male couples.  The other way around is very common.  I told a girl in one of my classes the story of my Korean friend.  She laughed and said that is the same reason I don't date white men (she's white)… She adds it's a little more than that, but she said making black babies is more fun than making white babies.  I was shocked! There was an article done by a magazine produced by our university's Black Culture Center. The author a black female said they feel abandon… and that white is better.  They said reason black men date white women is because they are easier to control and stuff, but they said it might to too much of a generalization so they are not really sure.

   I'm from the Midwest so I haven't seen it all. I really don't know I'm still a virgin (22 year old)… {honestly never kissed a girl)…. So I have no idea.  It really makes me insecure down there….  I always heard the ideal penis size of a girl is like 8 inches long and 6 inches around.  I am no where near that… (from Men's Health they say 95% of males in the US measure between 5-7 inches in length)  and the size of sex toys…

    People can be real picky about the simplest things… so I figure that they would take size to be important! I am so confused.
Answer -
Hey Kyle
Well first of all you have very strange freinds and fortanately not all the world is like that. I live in southern california and fortanately I see every interracial couples all the time. I'm mixed but you can consider me black and yet I am currently with a white guy and my last boyfriend was latino. Also I am friends with a lot of asian girls at my school. I talked to them about asian guiys. They said they loved asian guys and there were a couple of asian hotties at my school. They also helped me realize how the asian population in this country is very small so it can be difficult to find really nice looking asian guys. But she says if you went to some countries like japan or korea then you see a lot more asian hotties. My cousin, who is black, used to live in japan and she says she loves asian guys. So remember your perceptions may be influenced by our society.

And again they are not based on penis sizes. Maybe in a perverts world that is the case but not in the real world. Most women go for a guy's physical appearance and personality, not what is in their pants. Most women really do not think about that. I've dated plenty of guys and I rarely think about their penis size. Yes people can be picky but usually about other physical characteristics NOT penis size. So what you have been told is pretty much fake and not stuff people really think about. Stuff people joke about maybe but not stuff people seriously consider in a commited and loving relationship.
Melissa

Answer
physical appearance means things like their body shape or face. Things like their eyes (blue or brown), hair (long, short, curly, straight, bald), skin tone (pale to brown), height, skinny or fat, things of that nature. I'm sure you get what I mean. I hope that when you look at girls you primarily look at their face and judge weather it is plain, cute, or beautiful and look at their body shape but don't necessarily judge their tightness (if you get what I mean).
Melissa