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MX wrote at 2007-11-14 11:16:54
Well... I think it's just teens stuff... he wanted to experience something new with u and his friend.

And as u say: u cant's resist them! And having sex in second date is a bit early, I guess...




D wrote at 2008-04-11 22:39:39
ARE YOU FOR REAL?! you LET his friend finger you and your saying he only wants you for sex. Are you serious? you let him, you went up to that room, you cant honestly say you didnt know what was going to happen. YOU PUT YOURSELF IN THAT POSITION...NOT HIM...AND I AS A GUY CAN HONESTLY SAY THAT IF A GIRL IS GOING TO ACT A "CERTAIN" WAY TREAT HER A CERTAIN WAY... I DONT SEE WHERE YOUR GETTING THIS HE COULD ONLY WANT YOU FOR SEX THING...


garfield wrote at 2008-09-01 20:45:26
all i can say is - if this question is meant seriously and the info is real - you are very very young and seem to be quite naive. those two guys had their fun and i donīt think there is anything wrong with it or degrading to a woman. itīs just that u donīt seem to know what u want or better how far it is for u to go. u stayed at his place, u touched his friend and u kept flirting with both of them: there is no way that u can make THEM responsible for the situation: u put yourself into it, girl.

to your question (which seems even more naive!): there are men who use women for sex, like there are women who use men for sex: no matter the race or age or whatever. generalizing like u do and saying that black men do look intentionally for white women for fun is just plain racist!


Victoria wrote at 2008-09-22 00:40:38
Darling, I feel so sorry for you that you had to go through that. He does want you only for sex and he shouldn't have put you in that position. What's worse though, is you put yourself in that position. As soon as you said you were making out with him in front of his friend and it was just the three of you together you had to know what was going on. You do need to wait until your older before doing something like that. When you are over powered two to one you have to be very much aware and in control of the situation.



Best of luck..


Mark wrote at 2009-01-11 09:13:11
Personally I believe 16 is young for sex, but it's not uncommon and I lost my virginity at 17 to a girl who was 15, so I guess i have no room to talk.  To understand black men you need to understand men, (or boys) in general.  Guys just about universally want sex.  Some want more than just sex, but we all pretty much want sex.  If a boy/man is hanging out with you and you are both single you can pretty much bet the farm that he would like to have sex with you.  I personally suggest taking time to get to know a guy a bit and holding out.  I understand attraction can be strong, but there are fun things you can do short of fully having sex until you know they guy better.  I know a lot of black guys and I know some seem to use white girls as a status thing.  Taking time and getting to know a guy is the best way to know what he really wants.  I don't think on the whole that black guys are that different than any other race.  Like I said he almost certainly wants sex, but if he treats you like a friend and with respect, it ususally shows he is into something deeper than just getting laid.  The guy you mention did not respect you and you should always demand that.  Loook on it as a lesson and learn from it, but never let the way you feel about yourself be tied up in what any guy thinks about you!


john Chase wrote at 2009-02-26 19:21:18
I'm only in my late thirties,and I tell you. I have never met a interracial couple that is at ease with there current situation. How people feel towards each other is good and well. Still I'll hazard a guess that 3 out of 5 persons, look down on on mixed couples. Comes down to this take, a look at what is happening if it's someone or something you think you can bring to dinner. At mom and dad's house? and at the end of the evening nothing negative is reached. You know were you stand.


NIKKI wrote at 2009-09-06 18:19:31
HELLO..I READ YOUR STORY ND I CAN RELATE TO YOU IN MANY WAYS..I WAS YOUNG ONCE AND IN THE SAME POSITION YOU WAS IN...I DATED A LOT OF BLACK MEN AND FELT VERY USED..IN MORE WAYS THAN ONE..EVEN THE SEX DEPARTMENT..I CAN SAY THAT I HAD TO DO A LOT TO FIX THIS PROBLEM IN THE END..AND IT WAS A LOT OF WORK..I HAD TO LET GO OF THE PERSON I ONCE WAS, I HAD TO CHANGE MY CELL PHONE NUMBER BECAUSE DUDES WOULD CALL AND SAY HEY YOU TRYING TO DRINK AND SMOKE JUST TO THINK THEY WAS GOING TO GET SOME ASS.. ONCE  CHANGED AND GOT MYSELF RIGHT MIND BODY AND SOUL I GREW UP A LOT AND MET SOMEONE SPECIAL TO ME HE IS BLACK AND WE HAVE A LOVING RELATIONSHIP..WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR OVER A YEAR AND I AM WHITE..I COULD DEFF. SAY THAT ITS ALL IN YOUR MIND BECAUSE IF YOU LET BLACK MEN TAKE CONTROL OF YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE WEAK MINDED THEY WILL..IN ANY SITUATION FOR EXAMPLE IF YOU THINK YOU ARE FAT AND UGLY THEY WILL TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THAT AND USE IT AGAINST YOU..I ALSO WOULD SAY DON'T SLEEP WITH A MAN THE FIST DAY OR TWO BECAUSE IF THEY CAN GET IT LIKE THAT THEY THINK YOUR EASY AND YOU WILL NOT HAVE A LOVING RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE MEN TALK AND THEY WILL TALK TO OTHER MEN LIKE OH SHE IS SO EASY I HAD SEX WITH HER ON THE FIRST NIGHT.


Mr. Prince wrote at 2010-01-11 18:08:06
As a matter of fact not all black men are the similar to yours; you in being who had submitted this placement has a dreadful luck, I presume like from my own decision I told my self my parents when I was a little teenager that I will never marry a black woman no matter how beautiful she might be both in character, nature, quality, temperament, personality, disposition, spirit, moral fibre, make-up, at the same time as I’m a young black chap in my age today, I have gotten a lot of understanding, perceptive and My reason for saying so are based on through feeling affection for White ladies from my early derivation which is based known to me and due to the piece of evidence I have found out from the times of yore occurrences from my fellow black counterpart!!!! Anyway, the lady in question you better study a black guy who you want to date before falling in love for him, that is my advice to you and stop laying condemning words herein against black men.


Real Help wrote at 2010-02-12 17:52:56
Yeah you're 16 having sex with an 18 year old...in some states they call this statutory-rape...On the real kiddo if your down to make-out and get fingered by you BF and his friend...you seriously can't expect to have any kind of relationship with this guy (or any man in general)... Men in general white/black/yellow/green whatever treat women how they come across. The only reason he pulled that with you is because you act like that type of girl... (having sex after you first date and stating that you would be down for this sort of thing if you where 20). So in short you got turned-out, so the best advice I could get you would be to either reevaluate your stance on relationships...or talk to a psychologist because you have some serious psycho/social/sexual issues going on...  


Sabrina Segovia wrote at 2010-12-25 18:44:47
Although you are 18, you are still too young to be sexually active, I was in my 20s when I lost my virginity.  You start off talking about what huge guys they are, an indication that you are attracted to huge men, yet later you refer to them as little boys.  Your story is a prime example of why so many women are raped acrossed this country.  Any decent self respecting woman of any race would not place herself in a situation in which she is alone with 2 men.  You knew they expected sex and you knew it would lead to sex, and if you have respect for yorself you would never allow a man to be intimate with you in the presence of another man. You allowed it because you are hot in the behind and was aroused at the idea.  His friend being rough with you turned you off, but these two men could have easily raped you whether it was right or wrong, you allowed yourself to be alone with them, you led them on by allowing your friend to fondle you in the presence of another man.  YOu were playing yourself like a whore and a loose girl; this is how white women get the bad reputation for being so promiscuous and easy.  YOu placed yourself in that situation and if all he wanted you for was sex, he is no different from a white male.  Plenty of white men want you for sex, its not his fault you were naiive and hoped he wanted you for a relationship.  It's not about color, its about a woman making wise choices about the types of men she allows herself to spend time with.  YOu sound very narrow minded to take one situation with a black guy, or even if it were 5 situations, there are over 33 million black people in america and you haven't even been with even one percent of the black men and you already have a narrowminded stereo type because that's what you want to believe.  There are plenty of white men that are with white women for more than sex and have them as wives and the mother of their children, all you have to do is look at the black men in hollywood with white wives, so no, they don't just want you for sex unless you put yourself out there as loose and easy.  White women get the reputation for being loose and only good for sex because you crave the black bamboo and want the experience and because your loins are out of control, you place yourself in a position to be treated like a piece of meat.  No woman should ever visit any mans house of any race knowing she will be alone unless she is ready to have sex with him.  YOu sound like you need to grow up before you start trying to play grown up and messing with men whom you claim were like little boys. Calm yourself down and stop being hot in the behind and act like a respectful classy woman and you will be treated like one. Get some standards before you get raped or hurt by some guy for teasing him and then telling him you are ready to leave. You knew what you were getting into when you went over there, then you have the nerve to take your one experience with a black guy because you twot was hot and use it to unfairly judge black men.  They are no different from white men.  If you make it easy and available for them, why wouldn't they use you for if you show them you are worthy to be respected, you wouldn't place yourself in that situation to begin with.


wow wrote at 2011-01-17 12:29:41
derrick is a jerk there are many nice black men out there you dont have to settle for the first one you meet. they are just like any other man white or black just take your time and the right one will come along...........


Jonas wrote at 2011-03-28 11:22:40
That's what you get from hanging around with niggers. You are better off staying on that side of town away from the decent white people.


Twinz wrote at 2011-05-08 08:29:17
In your situation yes! It seems all your boyfriend wanted was sex. So you should probably get your priorities straight with your boyfriend and talk about the boundaries in your relationship. To me, my personal opinion he's a perverted adolescent boy who is trying to see what he can get and probably thinks your easy and wouldn't have a problem with it so he didn't even bother talking to you about it. He disrespected your body and self-worth and a real man despite their ethnicity wouldn't do that.   Oh and don't believe what you hear not all black man are with white because they think they are weaker, less tolerant, or because they can do whatever they want. Black man have preferences just like all other men. Some men prefer small women others prefer larger women, shorter women, etc.

But thats all men. Just like women have different preferences. Unfortunately however, there are some men that do think like that but its not only black men.



In future keep in my mind that your self worth is so much more then some guy trying to take it from you. Remember to evaluate your realtionships before you starting giving your self away. If you recognize yourself first and you show guys that you are respectful of yourself then their image of you and how they approach you will be different and more positive BUT if you let them think that your open and really easy with trying new things then your most likely to end up with guys that will you use to their advantage and when they are done with you they will forget you. So just be careful and most importantly be your self.  


Roger wrote at 2011-12-13 20:00:45
Even if the question says do black men do this and that, I'm sure people don't mean ALL BLACK MEN. If you do, your an idiot. I really think the reason why these questions are asked is because it happens SO MUCH. If I'm then show me all these black men doing good for their white girlfriends. So many of these answers make black men seem like angels, but that's what a lot of people do. They talk big, but their actions paint a much different picture. I'm in my late 20s and can say out of all the black men I have known or heard of from other friends, only about a half a dozen of them lead good lives. Their is many white men out there that do that too, but their is also many many many more white men out there than black. So, with that said all men can be bad, but actions have shown us black men take it to a whole new level! And you can take that to the bank!  


kara wrote at 2013-01-20 21:35:05
As a blonde blue-eyed I cant resist a black man's looks, attention and touching me. I melt when a Black man shows he wants and desires me. There is nothing wrong in meeting that man and having a fantastic time enjoying what he can and will do to your body.  


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