About Melissa Burton (a.k.a Bee) Expertise I can help you with anything you need to know about interracial dating. I myself have been in many relationship with different races. I have also experienced when your parents are not accepting of who you want to date. So if you ever need advice feel free to ask me.
Experience I have dated many guys of various races,cultures and religions.I have also helped many of my friends who had dated different races. Also I've been in different high school and college related organizations.
Follow-Ups to Answer from Expert Melissa Burton (a.k.a Bee)
MX wrote at 2007-11-14 11:16:54
Well... I think it's just teens stuff... he wanted to experience something new with u and his friend.
And as u say: u cant's resist them! And having sex in second date is a bit early, I guess...
D wrote at 2008-04-11 22:39:39
ARE YOU FOR REAL?! you LET his friend finger you and your saying he only wants you for sex. Are you serious? you let him, you went up to that room, you cant honestly say you didnt know what was going to happen. YOU PUT YOURSELF IN THAT POSITION...NOT HIM...AND I AS A GUY CAN HONESTLY SAY THAT IF A GIRL IS GOING TO ACT A "CERTAIN" WAY TREAT HER A CERTAIN WAY... I DONT SEE WHERE YOUR GETTING THIS HE COULD ONLY WANT YOU FOR SEX THING...
garfield wrote at 2008-09-01 20:45:26
all i can say is - if this question is meant seriously and the info is real - you are very very young and seem to be quite naive. those two guys had their fun and i donīt think there is anything wrong with it or degrading to a woman. itīs just that u donīt seem to know what u want or better how far it is for u to go. u stayed at his place, u touched his friend and u kept flirting with both of them: there is no way that u can make THEM responsible for the situation: u put yourself into it, girl.
to your question (which seems even more naive!): there are men who use women for sex, like there are women who use men for sex: no matter the race or age or whatever. generalizing like u do and saying that black men do look intentionally for white women for fun is just plain racist!
Victoria wrote at 2008-09-22 00:40:38
Darling, I feel so sorry for you that you had to go through that. He does want you only for sex and he shouldn't have put you in that position. What's worse though, is you put yourself in that position. As soon as you said you were making out with him in front of his friend and it was just the three of you together you had to know what was going on. You do need to wait until your older before doing something like that. When you are over powered two to one you have to be very much aware and in control of the situation.
Best of luck..
Mark wrote at 2009-01-11 09:13:11
Personally I believe 16 is young for sex, but it's not uncommon and I lost my virginity at 17 to a girl who was 15, so I guess i have no room to talk. To understand black men you need to understand men, (or boys) in general. Guys just about universally want sex. Some want more than just sex, but we all pretty much want sex. If a boy/man is hanging out with you and you are both single you can pretty much bet the farm that he would like to have sex with you. I personally suggest taking time to get to know a guy a bit and holding out. I understand attraction can be strong, but there are fun things you can do short of fully having sex until you know they guy better. I know a lot of black guys and I know some seem to use white girls as a status thing. Taking time and getting to know a guy is the best way to know what he really wants. I don't think on the whole that black guys are that different than any other race. Like I said he almost certainly wants sex, but if he treats you like a friend and with respect, it ususally shows he is into something deeper than just getting laid. The guy you mention did not respect you and you should always demand that. Loook on it as a lesson and learn from it, but never let the way you feel about yourself be tied up in what any guy thinks about you!
john Chase wrote at 2009-02-26 19:21:18
I'm only in my late thirties,and I tell you. I have never met a interracial couple that is at ease with there current situation. How people feel towards each other is good and well. Still I'll hazard a guess that 3 out of 5 persons, look down on on mixed couples. Comes down to this take, a look at what is happening if it's someone or something you think you can bring to dinner. At mom and dad's house? and at the end of the evening nothing negative is reached. You know were you stand.
NIKKI wrote at 2009-09-06 18:19:31
HELLO..I READ YOUR STORY ND I CAN RELATE TO YOU IN MANY WAYS..I WAS YOUNG ONCE AND IN THE SAME POSITION YOU WAS IN...I DATED A LOT OF BLACK MEN AND FELT VERY USED..IN MORE WAYS THAN ONE..EVEN THE SEX DEPARTMENT..I CAN SAY THAT I HAD TO DO A LOT TO FIX THIS PROBLEM IN THE END..AND IT WAS A LOT OF WORK..I HAD TO LET GO OF THE PERSON I ONCE WAS, I HAD TO CHANGE MY CELL PHONE NUMBER BECAUSE DUDES WOULD CALL AND SAY HEY YOU TRYING TO DRINK AND SMOKE JUST TO THINK THEY WAS GOING TO GET SOME ASS.. ONCE CHANGED AND GOT MYSELF RIGHT MIND BODY AND SOUL I GREW UP A LOT AND MET SOMEONE SPECIAL TO ME HE IS BLACK AND WE HAVE A LOVING RELATIONSHIP..WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR OVER A YEAR AND I AM WHITE..I COULD DEFF. SAY THAT ITS ALL IN YOUR MIND BECAUSE IF YOU LET BLACK MEN TAKE CONTROL OF YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE WEAK MINDED THEY WILL..IN ANY SITUATION FOR EXAMPLE IF YOU THINK YOU ARE FAT AND UGLY THEY WILL TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THAT AND USE IT AGAINST YOU..I ALSO WOULD SAY DON'T SLEEP WITH A MAN THE FIST DAY OR TWO BECAUSE IF THEY CAN GET IT LIKE THAT THEY THINK YOUR EASY AND YOU WILL NOT HAVE A LOVING RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE MEN TALK AND THEY WILL TALK TO OTHER MEN LIKE OH SHE IS SO EASY I HAD SEX WITH HER ON THE FIRST NIGHT.
