About Melissa Burton (a.k.a Bee) Expertise I can help you with anything you need to know about interracial dating. I myself have been in many relationship with different races. I have also experienced when your parents are not accepting of who you want to date. So if you ever need advice feel free to ask me.
Experience I have dated many guys of various races,cultures and religions.I have also helped many of my friends who had dated different races. Also I've been in different high school and college related organizations.
Follow-Ups to Answer from Expert Melissa Burton (a.k.a Bee)
Paris wrote at 2007-06-09 10:15:13
Actually, Nicole...
Your mom has good reason to be concerned about your relationship with your black boyfriend.
The majority of men who do things that you mention, ie: beat women, do drugs, have no jobs and are involved in gangs are indeed black men. Of course not all black men are like that, but the odds are much greater and your mom must have a good intuition about your black boyfriend specifically or she would not say anything. It sounds like you are involved with a black man that is involved with some of those things mentioned above that are causing mom to be concerned, probably with good reason. It also seems clear that you are very naive and gullible like most white girls that get involved with black men of questionable background. You need to wake up and smell the coffe, girl and pull your head out of the sand, just because all the attention and smooth words are clouding your judgement. You should do yourself a favor and get some self confidence as well, that would go a long way to not falling for some sweet talking guy that just comes along, tells you how beautiful you are, how much they love you and promises you the world. Clearly, the goodies you are getting make you feel good physically and emotionally and you are all caught up in the warm fuzzy feelings your guy gives you to keep you on the hook, just long enough so that he can keep you under his control. Time to grow up little girl, welcome to the real world. Every man wants something, and that's something that only women, or in your case, girls have. Good luck! ~Paris
B. Ed. wrote at 2007-08-29 17:27:01
Wow Paris! You're really good at picking up on things, even if there's absolutely no hints that even come close to the conclusions you draw. In the question I saw nothing about this black guy being mentioned as an abuser, drug user, or not having a job but you just kinda picked that up huh. You might be the one that needs to wake up. I have a great job, never touched drugs, don't wear clothes that would even resemble thug attire, and for some reason my white girlfriend's mother doesn't want her to have anything to do with me. The only thing she knows about me besides where I work, where I went to school (we met in college), what church I go to (we go to the same church), and where I live (we live in basically the same area), is that I'm black. And obviously that is the only concern she has. Some people just don't have the capacity to accept anything different. This girl's mother must have already had a preconceived idea of her daughter's perfect man. I seriously doubt he was black. So to the asker, it's not your duty to make your mother accept your man. If you know in your heart he's a good man let her know. If she still has her doubts, tough. She'll get over it. If not, you still have a wonderful person in your life. You just have to chalk it up to human ignorance. I know my girlfriend is a great person but her presence still invokes snickering and gasps at family gatherings. I've seen friends and family I've known for years begin distancing themselves from me and accusing me of selling out. But non of that matters. You'll realize the only thing that matters is the love you and he share. Be sure to keep that in mind.
d wrote at 2008-03-13 21:15:25
Just tell your mother to go check the facts, or show her the statistical facts that white men have just as high or higher rates or spousal abuse, alcoholism, pedophiles, and even drug use. Your mom is just a typical victim of a society that has always played up the problems in black communities and "hides" or "downplays" the same problems with whites. It is more a matter of socio-economic class than about race.
killerruffles wrote at 2008-07-02 07:49:53
The sad truth is that YES black men do seem to appreciate the beating of women and see it necessary to their continuation, YES white women seem far too self disciplined to call them on on it, and sadly, if you yourself are already on this road no one can tell you anything contradictory. I'm am afraid your sweet progressive red heart will lead you to an ugly black and blue face. For research purposes, ask a few black men when it's appropriate to hit a woman, and evaluate their answers.
Anna wrote at 2009-06-06 14:09:26
Black men have a very high rate of AIDS. Any white woman who sleeps with one is signing her own death warrant.
And its even higher in subSaharan Africa than in the USA.
Don't believe me? Google Africa+AIDS and black men+AIDS. The CDC even says that AIDS is rampant in the black community.
NO white person should ever sleep with any white person who was with a black person unless they have an HIV test first.
