Expert: D.J. - 10/17/2006

Question
i met a guy in msn and i wasn't sure why out of sudden he say he like me without seeing me before at all . then one day we came out and see each other then we talk for about 3 to 4 hours then we went back home . then  we sms and call each other everyday and i think he is quite a good guy but looks are just ok . i am afraid that if i accept his love i may be hurt or maybe sumthing else . wat should i do ?

Answer
Hi Nikikie : )

I am not sure how this pertains to interracial dating but I will try to help.

   I am not clear on how long you two have been in contact but from the situation you described, it seems as if you two are moving pretty fast. My advice would be to wait a while in order to observe how the situation develops.
   There is always a chance in being hurt when starting a new romantic relationship, but you have to decide for  yourself whether or not the risk is worth it. As I said earlier, it is a little early to have to decide whether or not you want to 'accept his love'. If it is possible, perhaps you two should go out on more dates (in safe, open,publicareas) so that you get more of a feel for him. Sometimes you meet great people online, but that's just it; they're only great chatting with online. It doesn't sound like you have any real chemistry between you two, but then again you also weren't too specific about how you felt.

So talk to him more, maybe go out some more...get to know him better. Just be safe. Don't be afraid to set boudaries with him (and yourself) that you don't want crossed.  A lot of times (although certainly not all) your gut intuition is right...

Good luck and have fun!

DJ