Expert: Susie Igras - 7/20/2007

Question
hello im a 13 year old boy having a 13 year old girl trouble well me and her have been going out for almost a year and shes just now coming up with all these questions about r relationship i kno im 13 years old but i care for her so much and i cant get her 2 realize it plz if u can give me some advice 2 what i can do 2 make her realize that im deeply in luv with her im trying my hardest but i cant get plz help me give me all the advice possible

Answer
I will give you the answer, even if it is the answer you may not want to hear. I understand that you might have big feelings for this girl and care about her very much, but wheter it is love or not is really a question. I was 13 once too and I know what you mean. But what I thought was true love then was actually just a puppy love phase I was going through. It's something I sort of look back on now and realize how silly it was and I laugh about it. It's perfectly normal to feel feelings for someone but I think the best thing to do would be for you to take a step back and just enjoy life. At your age it is not necessary to be tied down. You are young, you should enjoy life and the fun times you have. No one likes anyone telling them that you are too young for anything, I know, but at times what you think it is at the time is not what it really is when you look back on it. The best thing to do for you right now is not worry about this so much. You are young, you will have many girls and women in your life. You will go through break ups and make ups. It's important to just have fun and enjoy life when you are a teen. You still have so much to go, just enjoy having girls who are friends for now and one day you will meet the woman that will grow old with you. Who that woman is only time will tell. I hope this helps.