About Susie Igras Expertise I am currently in an interracial relationship. I can answer any questions you may have in dealing with interracial relationships. I have been through many of the same problems such as not being accepted, pressure from society, fights with parents or family, and myths about dating someone of a diffirent race. I can also answer any overall relationship questions. There is no such thing as an ignorant questions but I will not answer any questions that are unacceptable or rude.
Experience I have been involved in an interracial relationship for the past 5 years. I am enaged to a wonderful black man who I love more than life itself.
Education/Credentials I have taken several psychology college courses and communcation classes.
Question QUESTION: I've been with this guy for 7 1/2 months. I've been through so much with him. None of my family members will except him. My mom is the only one who completely understands how i feel, and knows what i'm going through. My dad won't let me see or talk to him, and i've put myself under so much stress over it. This boy means the world to me. I don't know what i would do without him. I plan on moving in with him when i'm 18. I only have a couple of months. But what do i do in the mean time? How do i keep myself from going through so much pain?
ANSWER: If you will be moving out soon and moving in with him, staying with a friend in the mean time may be a good idea. Or with another relative that accept's you bf. Just as a temporary place to stay till you can move with him. In the mean time between moving around you can try to speak to your dad and explain to him. I know he will not want to listen and more than likely argue with you over it. However, you will be 18 and old enough to make your own choices. Therefore you should be able to decide what relationships are good for you and which one's aren't. I hope this helps. If you need anything else please ask.
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QUESTION: I can't stay with a friend. My dad doesn't trust me or anything. He won't let me leave until i'm 18. My mom is the only one who does accept him, and both of my parents live together. I want to make this relationship work more than anything. I only have September & October. It only seems long, because i'm waiting on something. I've tried talking to my dad so many times. He won't talk about it. He doesn't give me time to say what i want to say. I just need more advice. What do i do these next two months?
ANSWER: I'm sorry but I just don't know what else you can do. The only other thing you can do is leave and stay with another family member. Also most states you have to be 16+ to move out legally. You should find out the law in your state. If you are 16 or older and that is the law in your states you don't need your parents permission to leave. There is just nothing else you can do the next 2 months. Explain the situation to your bf and tell him it will just be 2 more months till you can leave. I am sure if he loves and cares for you he will wait for you.
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QUESTION: Ok... I'm having more problems. Me and my boyfriend are not getting along. We were doing so good, and all of a sudden it just hit rock bottom. I don't know what happened. I've been hearing that and that for about a week of him cheatin on me. And i don't know what to do. He lies to me all the time. I've put up with 8 months of lying. I think he's a compulsive liar. And i want to tell him, but if i do i'm afraid it will make things worse between him and me. And i really don't need that at this moment. Last night i mentioned to him i was talking to my mom about compulsive liars and he was like what are you trying to say. I said, i'm not trying to say anything, but i read on the internet that if your in a relationship, and he/she is a compulsive liar it can savatage your relationship. What do i do about all this?.. I don't want to hurt anymore. I'm tired of the lies, and drama. HELP!!
Answer The answer is simple. If he is treating you badly and lying than you do not need that in your life. There are plenty of guys for you and it's not worth being hurt over and over for anyone! Either he can change his ways and act like a grown man or he can act like a little boy. If he chooses to act like a boy and continue behaving in such a way than it would be best for you to find someone else. It will be hard but you will be glad in the end.
