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| Subject | Date Asked |
| marrying someone from another country? | 1/8/2012 |
| Q: I have a Polish friend that I've grown up with in NYC. She is marrying a guy from Poland that she ... A: I would be wary of the time frame given and in some cultures men are expected to marry quickly. This ... | |
| Parents dont agree | 12/19/2011 |
| Q: I am a freshman in college and never really had african american friends in high school. But when I ... A: Its not about your family it's about you and your happiness. Who cares what they think it's 2011 not ... | |
| hispanic/african-american dating | 12/18/2011 |
| Q: I'm afraid to meet this dude's parents. He's hispanic and I'm african-american. I don't know what to ... A: I can tell you from experience I too was raised by southern standards that you meet the parent(s)of ... | |
| Parents Interfering with Interracial Relationship | 11/26/2011 |
| Q: Hey, my name is Tyler, and I am a white male who has fallen in love with a woman of a different ... A: Tyler, First off how old are you? Second giving where you live they may frown on interracial ... | |
| Is it Wrong? | 11/5/2011 |
| Q: I'm a twenty year old black woman whose still a virgin and when I was in kindergarten I had my first ... A: Gabby, I am going to share something with you I have been in relationships with white men since I ... | |
| Indian-Caucasian relationship. | 8/25/2011 |
| Q: Ok so my boyfriend is Indian. we went to school together and started dating out senior year. he ... A: Your boyfriend is a grown man and that's the problem with indian mothers their sons are still ... | |
| How To Talk To A White Guy | 6/21/2011 |
| Q: How to talk to a white guy and be comfortable about it. A: Stephanie, Coming from someone who is in a relationship with a white guy I was just myself and ... | |
| Interracial Relationships | 4/25/2011 |
| Q: Me and this girl have been bestfriends for over a year now. We are very close and we talk to each ... A: Here's my question to you how old are you two? If you are over 18 it's not mom and dad's call on who ... | |
| what happened? | 4/6/2011 |
| Q: I'm a doctor and I recently met a man online who was a lawyer. He was very handsome and smart and ... A: Sounds to me like he should have been talking to you first to find out what your friends had been ... | |
| help please | 2/26/2011 |
| Q: Alright I have an experience and am very confused by it. I need some insight...its kind of a long ... A: I had to take some time to think about answering the question carefully. Until I reread it closer ... | |
| dating | 1/13/2011 |
| Q: My mother has always been extremely critical of everything I do, expecting me to fail or mess up. I ... A: First off I would like to say that very few 23 year olds are owning their own homes and cars and ... | |
| Complicated relationship between white girl and Indian boy | 1/9/2011 |
| Q: A white girl and Indian boy have been dating for 1.5 years, and the relationship has progressed ... A: When you're dealing with a traditional indian family it's hard because they want someone of the same ... | |
| British Asian Boyfriend...how can I keep him?! | 12/5/2010 |
| Q: 2 years ago I began a relationship with a British Indian Sikh man. From the very start he has told ... A: Unfortunately....this guy you're dating is unable to make a choice and is going with his family's ... | |
| My family's racist | 12/2/2010 |
| Q: I was born and bred in the deep south, where everyone is white. I wasn't raised racist but I've seen ... A: It looks like you have a good support system with your mom and grandmother. If you got racist family ... | |
| Interracial relationship with an older guy | 11/26/2010 |
| Q: I met this guy online around January 2010, we have been talking everysingle day until today, we are ... A: The immigration office isnt going to care how you met this guy, but my main concern is how you're ... | |
| Question | 11/16/2010 |
| Q: not sure if you can help me on this, but I was seeing a guy from nepal, but now he kinda just ... A: I really can't advise you on this because people want to be with who they want, but foreigners are a ... | |
| dating a white guy | 11/14/2010 |
| Q: i want to date a white guy and even marry one but have not met one yet. How do i go about since i ... A: Let's take a step back because your question makes you sound a bit desperate. I am in a relationship ... | |
| hispanic love_black Angel | 11/8/2010 |
| Q: i have many issues but these two have become the biggest in my relationship.well to start off i am a ... A: I really hate family bullying it's stressful and sad. I am in the same predicament too with having ... | |
| Help | 11/5/2010 |
| Q: My husband is 35 and adopted from Korea, I'm 30 and American,we've been married for 7years, and we ... A: In the asian culture males are always doted upon leaving the daughters out. If your husband was ... | |
| interacial dilemna | 10/8/2010 |
| Q: I told my sister before i don't want anybody in my house to see interacials in my house and she is ... A: Please don't take this personally, but not only was your question pretty dense, but it also makes ... | |
| really need help | 2/8/2010 |
| Q: I am in a big problem . I am madly in love witha taiwanese girl . I am doing my Ph.D in taiwan,and ... A: If this girl has a boyfriend I would stopped seeing her the moment she said she had someone. It's ... | |
| interracial dating | 2/4/2010 |
| Q: My sophomore year in high school i began dating a black guy, im a white female. we dated for a ... A: My advice to you is that you were a kid when you started dating this guy, but now that you are in ... | |
| Asian/White relationship...I am confused | 11/1/2009 |
| Q: I am a 17 years old guy senior year in high school, I have these questions after I read several ... A: Percy, Sounds to me you have a preference for white females, but a lot of asian males are also ... | |
| interracial dating | 10/4/2009 |
| Q: k, i dont no wht to do, my parents really dont interracial dating so i dont no how to tell them that ... A: It's going to take time for your parents to accept the fact that social standards have changed in 40 ... | |
| I dont understand where I fit in... | 10/3/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend is white and I'm British Asian we don't have a bad relationship for the most part. ... A: You've been with this guy 2 years and his friend and ex is treating you like crap? That's totally ... | |
| Friends or looking for more? | 9/11/2009 |
| Q: I am a divorced, 34 yrs old latin woman that has dated Middle Eastern/Muslim men in the past (not my ... A: I was raised muslim and I wouldnt get drawn into Islam seriously.....I am telling you this from ... | |
| whitemen dating black woman | 9/8/2009 |
| Q: If a white man dates a black woman or have dated a black woman in the past how would he treat the ... A: It depends on the woman because every black woman a white guy may date is different and his ... | |
| Dating woman from Nicaragua | 8/5/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating a woman from Nicaragua with three kids by two different men for six months. The ... A: I wouldnt be comfortable with that arrangement because you're the man this woman's dating and ... | |
| interracial relationships | 7/21/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I are white,british. Our son (27) has met a british Indian woman (30).Her Indian ... A: Typically indian parents want their kids to marry within the same race because of the high ... | |
| Could it be because he's Indian and I'm black? | 7/5/2009 |
| Q: okay this is going to be long,I hope you don't mind.This has been bothering me for a while now and ... A: This maybe this guy's first interracial relationship. Indians tend to be very traditional and want ... | |
| another interracial and "interreligious" relationship | 6/24/2009 |
| Q: I am happy to have found this. You seem to be able to at least provide some valuable insight in an ... A: I am in a relationship myself with a white guy and I just met his parents like 3 months ago and it's ... | |
| dating | 5/28/2009 |
| Q: wow I just read your answers and it makes me sad to hear sisters like yourself denigrate brothers. ... A: You could have saved yourself the time wasted to write me such crap. Every black woman is not ... | |
| Black men and white women | 5/24/2009 |
| Q: Why do white women like black men? A: White women have been fed that crap about black men being well endowed down below and many are ... | |
| Issues With Interracial Relatioships | 5/20/2009 |
| Q: 1.) How do stereotypes and prejudices affect the couples, children, and families of interracial ... A: Ok to answer your1. Stereotypes and prejuduces affect by making couples feel isolated and ostracized ... | |
| Filipino/chineese and Mexican American | 5/19/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year. Things are good. But the only thing that concerns ... A: I think your boyfriend is afraid that his family won't accept you and that's sometimes a fear if ... | |
| Query | 5/14/2009 |
| Q: I am a brown guy and I really like this Korean girl in my school. There is a vast cultural barrier ... A: Try studying some Korean culture and learn about the traditions of Koreans so this girl will feel ... | |
| Stay or Leave | 4/25/2009 |
| Q: I'm a black woman and have been through the storms with a guy who is white. We write each other ... A: Sounds to me like he's not being honest with you because if he didnt want a relationship he should ... | |
| his Indian parents | 4/3/2009 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend are dating for 10 months. I'm 26, he is 30. I am from South East Asia. The ... A: I wouldnt worry about it since your boyfriend is happy and if his parents can't see that it's their ... | |
| neice hanging up on the phone | 3/28/2009 |
| Q: I have a niece who is 36 years old and had one son in wedlock. She called to ask for help regarding ... A: For starters your niece is acting she's 36 going on 16. She's too grown for that nonsense of hanging ... | |
| Is is normal to only be attracted to a certain race of men? | 3/26/2009 |
| Q: I here some people say they don't care about the race of a person. They say they only care about ... A: Pamela, I too faced that loveless and sexless type of feeling towards black men and when I actually ... | |
| Need Advice? | 3/16/2009 |
| Q: and he wants to be able to make me his again he was saying he wants to treat me how i should been ... A: Take care of buisness first and that is your obligation to school. First off if your ex is ... | |
| Interracial relationships | 3/12/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend is of mixed heritage. His father is African American and Indian and his mother ... A: I am of mixed heritage of African-American, Native American, and European ancestry, and my boyfriend ... | |
| White Aussie + Indian Girl | 3/10/2009 |
| Q: I am a fully home grown white Aussie and i have just started a relationship with a Canadian born ... A: I am in your position I am a black girl who's dating a white guy and just a few days ago when we had ... | |
| help | 3/5/2009 |
| Q: Okay i am a sophomore in college, there was this foreign guy in my class last year that I seemed to ... A: This is 2009 don't let anything stop you from getting to know this guy if you're feeling him let him ... | |
| Dating | 3/1/2009 |
| Q: I'm a black teenager who lives in Alabama. Before I start, I have no problem with dating in my own ... A: I would say try and talk to this girl find out stuff about her and if she's even looking to date. If ... | |
| Asian-Asian relationships | 2/27/2009 |
| Q: I was wondering, if people consider Asians dating other Asians, as in a Chinese man dating a ... A: no this doesnt sound interracial if you're dating people of the same ethnic background. Since all ... | |
| Indian-Caucasian Relationship | 2/25/2009 |
| Q: I am originally from India but live permanently in America now. Wouldn't call myself a ritualistic ... A: I too am dating interracially and he was raised catholic and I was raised muslim and so far it's ... | |
| Interracial Relationships | 2/4/2009 |
| Q: Ok... I am a 20 year old white woman dating a black man. I love him but what do i need to look out ... A: Look out for what.....it's 2009 people need to get over their ignorance of interracial dating and ... | |
| help with first interracial relationship/ relationship advice | 1/28/2009 |
| Q: this is is my first interracial relationship. these questions are mixed with what to do and what is ... A: I would take into consideration that this guy is almost 10 years older than you. We're looking at ... | |
| I only like white guys and I think that black guys are weird | 1/26/2009 |
| Q: Well Im in high school and ever since third grade I've always had crushesvon white guys or guys of ... A: I like yourself went to a predominantly white school and I too fell in love with white guys, but the ... | |
| I'm black and she's white | 1/25/2009 |
| Q: I've been talking to/recently started seeing this white girl for about 2yrs now and we are very ... A: It's hard to deal with racism especially if its in your family, but your girl is an adult she ... | |
| my korean girlfriend | 1/16/2009 |
| Q: I've been dating my korean girlfriend for 7 months...but we have not been happy at all. the reson ... A: I don't know what I can say because you don't want to be with someone who's treating you mean and in ... | |
| Forbidden relationships | 1/11/2009 |
| Q: Ive been dating my girlfriend my 11 months now, and it's been one of the greatest things that's ... A: If she wants to be with you she better be prepared to support herself if her parents cut her off. ... | |
| Forbidden relationships | 1/10/2009 |
| Q: Ive been dating my girlfriend my 11 months now, and it's been one of the greatest things that's ... A: When you're dealing with a different culture the hardest thing is dealing with the parents. If your ... | |
| My mom give in? | 1/5/2009 |
| Q: i have been dating this guy who is an indian and my self is a chinese. We have been together 4 ... A: The sad thing about parents who are bent on tradition is that they don't understand that you fell in ... | |
| interracial relation | 1/2/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend is white. i love him so much. i have 2 kids and he has 2 kids from previous marriage. ... A: This is 2009 I don't understand why people are still stuck on race when it's time to get over it. If ... | |
| My family disaproves of my interraccial relationship | 12/30/2008 |
| Q: I have recently started my first interracial relationship. My family is not racist but has always ... A: I had this issue too until I learned that the ignorance hurts the person behind it in the end. Don't ... | |
| Dating / Jealousy | 12/29/2008 |
| Q: I've been going out with this man whom I've met online for about 5 months. He is wondeful, very ... A: My take on this is that guys have a hard time letting female friends go when they are involved or ... | |
| dating a Nicaraguan woman | 12/24/2008 |
| Q: I'm Caucasian & seeing for 2 months a Nicaraguan woman with 2 children (which I've met before) from ... A: In latin cultures the brothers are always protective of their sisters especially if she's been ... | |
| My Girlfriends Parents | 12/23/2008 |
| Q: Me and My girlfriend have been together for almost 10 months now, there's only one problem. Her ... A: One of the things I've learned about IR dating is that not everyone is going to agree with the ... | |
| Interracial marriages | 12/18/2008 |
| Q: I am an Indian guy, born and brought up in a traditional Indian Family. I am currently in love in ... A: Interracial relationships only work if the people in it are willing to make it work. If you love ... | |
| My parents disappr ove me n boyfriend / Love because he is indian/Hindu? | 11/24/2008 |
| Q: I'm chinese ..22 coming 23 next yr march singaporean. My parents are driving me crazy .. some ... A: One of the things that I've understood about various cultures and their beliefs is that many want ... | |
| interracial relationship | 11/22/2008 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend have been going out for the past years and have been the best moments of my ... A: Starting off your mother can't tell you who you can and cannot see you're 19 years old. Eventually ... | |
| Im black and she is white | 11/14/2008 |
| Q: There is this girl at my school that I have been talking to for a while and we are really attracted ... A: Here's my take why should it matter that you're black and she's white I mean this is 2008 going into ... | |
| interracial relationships | 11/7/2008 |
| Q: Why do people make a big deal about a white woman being with a black/ African-American man yet if ... A: This is what I don't understand about society and their reaction to interracial dating whether it's ... | |
| boy in school | 10/9/2008 |
| Q: i am a 16 year old black girl (a senior in high school) and i go to a school that is very diverse. ... A: I would go for it since he seems really nice and he seems to catch your fancy, but keep the deal ... | |
| not dating same race | 9/8/2008 |
| Q: I feel guilty..I am a young black female of 23 years of age and I was wondering, how should I feel ... A: Adrianna, I am currently in your position right now and it's funny as I don't know what. I don't ... | |
| Love and relationships | 8/13/2008 |
| Q: Background info: I am 32 years old and my partner Carol is also 32. We have been together for ... A: I hate to put it bluntly, but rebound relationships don't work and if you met right as she was ... | |
| rock in a hard place | 7/17/2008 |
| Q: I recently met this amazing guy he's a white guy and happens to be 9 years older then me , but I ... A: I took some time to think about your question for the past day or so and I came to the conclusion ... | |
| black girls | 6/24/2008 |
| Q: I love ass and full lips young black girls with that round ass drive me nuts.I have been with white ... A: Ok just to let you know I am an African-American woman and I have to educate white guys on debunking ... | |
| My boyfriend wants me to sleep over | 6/24/2008 |
| Q: I’m sending this message to you in need of advice because I’m lost and do not know what to do. So ... A: I wouldnt lie to your parents because that could affect the relationship between you and them. I ... | |
| Indian/black mixed relationship | 6/11/2008 |
| Q: I have been involved with a man since October last year I'm 23 he is 43. Age is not really the main ... A: The most important thing about love is that there is compatibility and seems like despite age ... | |
| PLS HELP | 6/9/2008 |
| Q: Im an indian girl im 26 yrs old. My parents are from india. My boyfriend/fiancee is from america. He ... A: How is your boyfriend having a child from a previous marriage an embarassment? The last thing your ... | |
Nafeesah
Top Expert on this page
Expertise
I can answer just about everything about interracial dating and what you will expect to deal with if you are in one. I won't answer questions about the psychological elements because I don't have a background in psychology to answer that.
Experience
I have been in two long term relationships with individuals who were biracial and I have experience in friends who have dated and are married to people who are of a different race.
Education/Credentials
associates degree, bachelors degree, and certified nursing assistant
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