About Susie Igras Expertise I am currently in an interracial relationship. I can answer any questions you may have in dealing with interracial relationships. I have been through many of the same problems such as not being accepted, pressure from society, fights with parents or family, and myths about dating someone of a diffirent race. I can also answer any overall relationship questions. There is no such thing as an ignorant questions but I will not answer any questions that are unacceptable or rude.
Experience I have been involved in an interracial relationship for the past 5 years. I am enaged to a wonderful black man who I love more than life itself.
Education/Credentials I have taken several psychology college courses and communcation classes.
Question I have been in an interracial relationship for the past 4 years my family does not want to accept it. But his family is fine with it. the are very respectful and love me as if i was there own sister. they cant wate to throw a wedding for us. My family refuses to meet him and get to know him. I have had to lie so many times just to make things easier on me. we currently have been living together for 2 years. and for the past 6 months my dad totally ignores me and wont speak to me. I really want to resolve this issue and make things better. I want to move on with my life to the enxt step but i hesitate to do so because i really want my family to be a part of it. it really breaks my heart. I was daddys little girl and now i feel like my father doesnt love me anymore. i dont know what else to say or do to change things please help me out. what do you think i can do to make my dad understand how much i love my boyfriend? please help thank you
Answer Well to start, you can't keep going on like this. I know it must be heart breaking to have your family treat you this way. It's not that your family doesn't love you, it's that they refuse to accept that you can make your own choices and that race is not an issue to you. It may be because how they were brought up or just previous events but for some reason they are set in their beliefs and are hard headed about change. I think that maybe visiting some of your family and trying to speak to them about this. Tell them how you really feel. Let them know that this is your choice and you love him very much and he treats you well. You are very happy with this man and you just want your family to be able to see him for the great person he is and not his color. Explain to them that you love your family and you refuse to choose one or the other and it means a lot to you if they can please try to accept your bf. If they still refuse to accept things then simply tell them that you love yout family and you love him too but you can't dwell on this forever. Leave them to think about it for a bit. It's very hard for some people to change their beliefs. If they still refuse to accept things, invite them to your wedding anyway. Give them opportunities to meet him and be part of you still. If they push themselves away from you there is not much you can do but keep in touch with them and hope one day they change their mind. I really hope this helps. If have any other questions please ask!
