About Melissa Burton (a.k.a Bee) Expertise I can help you with anything you need to know about interracial dating. I myself have been in many relationship with different races. I have also experienced when your parents are not accepting of who you want to date. So if you ever need advice feel free to ask me.
Experience I have dated many guys of various races,cultures and religions.I have also helped many of my friends who had dated different races. Also I've been in different high school and college related organizations.
Question I tried to asked her by letter but she has not replied so its obvious that she has moved on in a short space of time. Majority of my friends and family have said that her new relationship won't last, but it's time for me to accept things and also move on. I am very hurt and still cannot understand how she cannot have similar feelings and I am very afraid of entering a new relationship.
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This one might confuse you. I have been in a realtionship with a white girlfor 17 years and its been long distance relationship. We have never tied the Knot. I have ask several other experts of there opinions. Basically we have got comfortable in our separate lives. It's been very dificult for me to inform my family but I have to fuly accept the blame for this. Recently she went through a bad patch in work and decided to finish the relationship since I was not committing to her. I than proposed to her and she acceptted so it was just a matter of informing the families. After a couple of days she came to see and said that she could not marry me. A couple of weeks later she started to contact me and said that she had made a mistake. At this stage I brought her home and introduced her to my family and they accepted that they were ok with us getting married. Over the last few months we had our ups and downs and marriage was the main topic of conversation always instigated by her. Than a couple of weeks ago we both argueing on the phone. I just thorght the whole situation was so childish and we both loved each other. So I went to her wokplace and proposed. She accepted and we informed her parents of our intentions. It was only my family left to be informed. We made no arrangements to inform my family yet. Than a couple of days late she just turned up out of the blue on the doorstep unfortunaley there were guests in the house who were not immediately related. I infomred her that we were not in a good situation to walk in and inform the family. End the of the day my family had to be inormed first. We discussed this outside and agreed that we both wanted to get married. She left and than a couple of days later she decided that she didn't want to go through with it all and broke of the engagement. I turned up at her workplace a couple of weeks later and she told me that she had found someone else and had moved on. I am devastated. i have been to counselling, but have been finding it really dificult to move on. I just don't know what to do. I know i am fault in certain areas but I keep blaming myself for everything.
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Hello
Well it sounds that with all these problems it is probably a good thing you guys did not get married. It has been over 17 years and it seems like she couldn't make up her mind about the engagement or anything and then you couldn't even inform your family. So here's what I think you should do. you have two options. Either you talk to her about this one more time and ask her how she feels about marraige. If she agrees then don't stall anymore and tell your parents. It sounds like she has been waiting long enough so just tell them the same day if you have to. Don't wait around for the right time cause obviusly this is taking too long for the both of you.
The second option is to just move on. It has been a long time and maybe you guys aren't meant to be together. Obviously you are finding it difficult to move on and are depressed about this but these things take time. It may take you months and even more than a year to really get over this. So give it time. Anyway try to bring up this topic again with her and let her know that you are willing to tell your parents immediately and just go ahead and do this whole thing. Or you can just move on yoursef. Try to date other people and really try to get over this and just remember that it will take some time... a lot of time. Anyways good luck with this whole thing and I hope it works out for the best for you!
Melissa
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I'm really sorry to hear about what ahppened. It sounds like you guys were really not meant to get married or anything if she was able to throw 17 years away like that. It's like she didn't even care or something. But you really didn't deserve that. Anyways I don' think you should try looking for new relationships you should just move on and give it time. Try to do other things and just get over her. If possible it would be nice for you to date people just to show yourself there are other women out there. But don't get into a new relationship or anything just date. Anyways good luck with everything and again I am sorry you had to go through this! Take care and I hope you are having a nice weekend! God bless!
Melissa
