About Melissa Burton (a.k.a Bee) Expertise I can help you with anything you need to know about interracial dating. I myself have been in many relationship with different races. I have also experienced when your parents are not accepting of who you want to date. So if you ever need advice feel free to ask me.
Experience I have dated many guys of various races,cultures and religions.I have also helped many of my friends who had dated different races. Also I've been in different high school and college related organizations.
Question My ex-boyfriend and I had been dating for almost 3 months.I am 19 and he is 21. We still love each other very much. The reason why we broke up is because his parents are from a very small town and they are extremely racist and told him that if continues to see me that they will kick him out. The first few times they said this, we just he wold just sneak around to see me. Until one day he came to see me for a whole day and they found out about itand threw all of his stuff and everything he bought them outside. They were very mad and obviously disapprove. He is afraid he will lose his family if he stays with me and that they will disown him. So now he says he cant take it anymore because it seems like it i too hard for us to stay together because he feels like he has to choose. Is there anything that he can tell his parents or that we can do to help them realize they are being ridiculous?
Answer Hello
No there is nothing he can tell his parents. It would be like someone trying to convince you to be racist against someone. They actually believe what they are feeling is true and someone just telling them something wont change anything. And this is especially true if his parents are in fact extremely racist. The only thing that really changes these attitudes are if you guys were together for a much longer time. Parents tend to take these relationships more seriously if they have happened for long time and when marraige gets into the picture. Even then they may not tolerate it, but once a child steps in, they tend to be more tolerable of their child's mate. Note that I said tolerable. They may not like you but they might tolerate your presence and be a bit nicer to you. Another thing that might change it is if they met you and really liked you. Their racist beliefs will probably not change but they will consider you an exception. But this only happens to some couples, and not to most. The best thing you guys can do is continue to see each other and then when he's able to move out of his parent's house, maybe you guys can live together and this wont be a problem. Also you will know how serious this really is. 3 months is not enough time to know if this is someone who you could be with permanently. After a year of dating you he might be ready to make sacrifices for you but not now. I wish I could tell you more but that's really all you can do at the moment.
Melissa
