About Susie Igras Expertise I am currently in an interracial relationship. I can answer any questions you may have in dealing with interracial relationships. I have been through many of the same problems such as not being accepted, pressure from society, fights with parents or family, and myths about dating someone of a diffirent race. I can also answer any overall relationship questions. There is no such thing as an ignorant questions but I will not answer any questions that are unacceptable or rude.
Experience I have been involved in an interracial relationship for the past 5 years. I am enaged to a wonderful black man who I love more than life itself.
Education/Credentials I have taken several psychology college courses and communcation classes.
Question Hello me and my exboyfriend broke up recently. And I just can't get over him.. I left him to do whats best for me but I still want him back in my life. Knowing that he want change for me and that everything will get worser. Everyone that knows him was shock that he had someone in his life and asome that he was going to cheat because of his past doings, but he would tell everyone that nah she's the one and i totally put trust in him. I gave in so much, caring for him and his son and he's not mine. But I want to write his son then call him but only after my heart is healed. And he don't have nothing to do with it, but if I keep talking to him the more I want heal and don't get me wrong I do love him. His dad is moving away closer to his job since we broke up and I was thinking like maybe he had this already planned and because we argued each week. But I just have to keep thinking that I have a whole future a head of me because I'm 21 and he's 30. And I want him to see that She's doing better she did it with out me, she's with someone that appreciated her more than i did. Is it true with the saying that mostly 2 different religion want work? he's Muslim and I'm Christian and he's very controlling. I felt that it was a controlling issue. And he wanted me to bow done to him and I wouldn't do it so i left.
Answer This sounds like an unhealthy relationship for you. It's not a matter of religion, because that is irrelavent to the issue at hand. The problem is your ex is controlling and that is the problem at hand. I believe it's true when they that someone only acts a way because you let them. If you allow someone to control you than they will. By going back to him and putting up with his controlling behavior you are just approving this behavior and saying it's not wrong because you are willing to put up with it. I was in a relationship like that before. This guy had such control over me. I was blind to everything because I thought I loved him so much. After we broke up, to me it felt like the end of the world. Like I wanted and needed him so bad, I looked pathetic. It's not him that you miss overall, mostly it's the control he had over you. Sounds silly but it's true. When someone has control over you you feel secure and when they are gone suddenly your security is gone and you have to do things for yourself. In my situation to get over it, I had to find something else to do. I began to work more, and hang out with friends when I was lonely. I dated around, and I just got over it after a bit. It wasn't too long after that I met my fiance now. The sooner you leave a bad relationship the sooner you can meet someone who will treat you like a queen. Good luck! If you need anything else let me know.
