About Melissa Burton (a.k.a Bee) Expertise I can help you with anything you need to know about interracial dating. I myself have been in many relationship with different races. I have also experienced when your parents are not accepting of who you want to date. So if you ever need advice feel free to ask me.
Experience I have dated many guys of various races,cultures and religions.I have also helped many of my friends who had dated different races. Also I've been in different high school and college related organizations.
Question How do you begin to deal with your parents refusing to acknowledge my relationship? I am 27 years old, this is the first relationship with a black man that I told my parents about, but not the first I have had. I just do not have an open relationship with them. This is someone that I want to get married to and have children & all my parents can say is I am selfish & they will never accept him or welcome him. Is it wrong of me to expect for my man to accept my family rejects us for prejudice reasons?
Answer Hello
Well there's nothing you can do to change the way your parents think. Someone's opinion is very difficult to change and when it comes to topics about racism, most people just don't change their beliefs. The best thing to do right now is to deal with it. At least they know you are dating him. Don't talk about him too much and just stay away from the topic if you can. And just so you know your parents might feel more welcoming about him if you introduced him to them. Once they meet him and see he is a nice man who loves you, they might be willing to at least give him a chance. But I wouldn't do that unless your sure it's okay or until it gets so serious to the point where marraige is happening. But until then it might be good to wait until you feel it's okay. Also the longer you are with this guy, the likelier they will like him in the future. They'll see how serious this guy is and how happy he makes you, and when children come into the picture they will probably be much more accepting about it than they are now. But as you can see all of this takes a lot of time. I don't think it's wrong of you to expect your boyfriend to accept that your family is prejudice against the relationship. I mean that's what's going on, that's the reality of the situation. If he is going to be with you then he has to accept that reality. Anyway good luck with this situation and I really hope your parents will be more understanding about this in the future!
Melissa
