About Melissa Burton (a.k.a Bee) Expertise I can help you with anything you need to know about interracial dating. I myself have been in many relationship with different races. I have also experienced when your parents are not accepting of who you want to date. So if you ever need advice feel free to ask me.
Experience I have dated many guys of various races,cultures and religions.I have also helped many of my friends who had dated different races. Also I've been in different high school and college related organizations.
Question ok..im 17 years old and my parents dont like that i date black guys (im white)...its like i have to hide and sneak around...and i told them that must be what they want...i juss dont see the big deal...i mean i see people for people i dont look at their color...is it because they are from a different generation that they think like this? i have had many boyfriends and they dont want to meet any of them...i have to lie to them and tell them im going to a friends house or something like that juss to go see them...i hate this and i juss wish they would accept it...its just driving me crazy...i want them to be part of my life and this is making us drift farther and farther apart, it seems like sooner or later we wont even be talking anymore...i juss want advice on what i can do to try to get them to be a little more open minded...your help would be really apprecaited
thanx, tamara
Answer Hello Tamara
They are probaly like this because of how their parents taught then and how they were raised. There are many people from your paren't generation that are not racist or prejudice. But if a person tends to be against interracial dating then it is probaly because of how they were raised. I hate to tell you this but it's not very possible to change their minds. It's like someone trying to cinvince you to be racist, it's not going to be easy and will probaly be near to impossible. the same goes for your parents. They are conditioned to believe this and it's hard to change their beliefs. Usually parents accept interracial dating when the relationship gets serious. For example I had a friend who was dating interracially. Her parents did not support it but after they dated for a few more years and even got engaged the parent;s gradually accepted. They figured out he was a nice guy, wery well educatied, and in love with their daughter and that's all that mattered. It took years for them to realize it but it diud happen. So other than that it is not very likely yo can convince them to change. You can talk about it with them and ask then why they have these beliefs and try to talk some sense into them but other than that there's not much you can do. anyways good luck and have hope cause they can change. It may not be immediate but it's certainly possible!
Melissa
