About Melissa Burton (a.k.a Bee) Expertise I can help you with anything you need to know about interracial dating. I myself have been in many relationship with different races. I have also experienced when your parents are not accepting of who you want to date. So if you ever need advice feel free to ask me.
Experience I have dated many guys of various races,cultures and religions.I have also helped many of my friends who had dated different races. Also I've been in different high school and college related organizations.
Question as you already know I am worried that my fiancee might be cheating on me. I have been worried about this for a long time. As a man, it is hard for me to know how to make her happy, we were not completely honest with each other in the beginning, and now almost two years later, it haunts me that she wasn't. I was dishonest to hide a past I did not want to reaveal that was full of assault, nad molestation. She lied, becuase she thought it would run me off by telling me she had a daughter. Anyways, The reason I think that she might be cheating is everytime, we are supposed to meet somewhere, she is late. And about two months ago I moved up state while she stayed down. I moved up to take care of my Grandmother, and she had the choice to come. Now, she will not help me get back to Houston with her. She will not talk to a friend of mine to see if I can stay with him...( we are homeless) and she has not gotten me a ride down there. I have tried to explain to her that my mom's boyfriend is soon going to jail, and I will be on the streets up here, and she acts as if she does not care. She says she loves me, and that she would never cheat on me, but, we have all of each others e-mail addresses, and passwords so that we can check them when the other is too busy to. But she just made ( i think) a new account with a password I do not know. Why would she do this? Another reason I think that she might be cheating is becuase she always has an I don't care attitude about our relationship. The other day we were talking on the phone, and I asked her if she liked things the way they were with me being upstate, and her being down-state, and she said yes! Kat, please help
Not only is my relationship interracial, but the age and maturity factor is well at hand here...the funny thing is that she is 24 I am turning 20, and she is three times more publicly immature than I am. I am immature in private or around friends. Not while I am shopping at a store I go to all the time.
Please help.
All assistance is valid and can probably help.
Greg
Answer Hi Greag
First of all don't let it haunt you that she was being dishonest with you about not telling you she had a daughter. She was probally afraid she would lose you and I can see how it compared to your secret that it was not that big of a deal but it probally was to her. Now back to your original question... she could be cheating but on the other hand she might not be. Being late could just mean she's a late kind of person. i have plenty of friends who show up late all the time even if I discuss it with them they still show up late.There does seem to be a problem with her not even trying to ask your friend if u can stay. That does seem like a sign of cheating but have u discussed that with her if not then do so and also discuss the new email thing. That I don't care attitude is definately a bad sign and even worse her saying that she likes the idea of you two being apart. If u really want to be sure though you can just try to be sneaky and find out yourself. Like you could get one of your friends in houston if u have any that is, who she doesn't know to try and flirt with her. You could just do things like that but if you're not that type of person you'll just have to discuss EVERYTHING that's bothering you with her. If she does care she'll listen. Maybe you guys could work something out like her trying not to be late things like that. Also don't just think she's cheating either think of other possibilities too. Good luck and I definately hope u find out the truth...
Melissa
