About Melissa Burton (a.k.a Bee) Expertise I can help you with anything you need to know about interracial dating. I myself have been in many relationship with different races. I have also experienced when your parents are not accepting of who you want to date. So if you ever need advice feel free to ask me.
Experience I have dated many guys of various races,cultures and religions.I have also helped many of my friends who had dated different races. Also I've been in different high school and college related organizations.
Question Ok here's the thing, I'm 19 years old and I'm a second semester sophmore in college.Im white and so is the rest of my family. In 9th grade I started talking to a black boy by the name of austin, we were just friends at first because i knew how my family would feel about it, soon enought we became boyfriend and girlfriend, he's the nicest guy i've ever met and he makes me soooo happy, anyhow 1 year later we broke up because of my mom, Duing our senior prom we got back together and the plan was when i turned 18 we were going to just leave. Well when it came right down to it i decided at the time that would be a horrible decision, so i broke up w/ him. it was by far the hardest thing i've ever had to do. a couple weeks later we were talking on msn and told eachother that we loved eachother, and that we always would, we were both very saddened that this happened to us and we tried to just move on w/ our lives, he dated other girls and i dated another guy for about a year (he was white) it just didnt work out, so I sent austin and email wondering if he still felt love for me, ofcourse he did, but I was a little late because he had just joined the navy and was fixing to leave to go to chicago for basics, he'll be back in december but only for a little while then he'll most likely be stationed in san diego, (im in oklahoma right now) so we came up w/ another plan, to wait until i graduate college then get married, but thats just not going to happen, it could be 2 years before i graduate at the rate im going, and i wont get to see or speak to him for that long, that's just crazy, so i thought for along time on what to do and i found in the bible a verse that says follow your heart, so thats exactly what i want to do, i want to quit school and go back to sandiego w/ him in december, the only thing is my family not just mom or dad, its EVERYONE, they say there not racist but thats a lie if i ever heard one, they say the n word and constantly sit around and talk about black people, so my big question is how do i tell atleast my mom, i mean she's so up tight and dont ever want to listen to anything i say, she dont care its her way or the highway, so what do it do?
Answer Hey Sara
I also agree that your family is racist if what you said was true. I'm glad to hear you met someone who you really care about that much but I hope you know what you are doing. Anyways the best way is to tell her. There's no right or wrong way to go about it. You just have to tell her. Try to find a time when she is in a good mood or something then just let her know. By the way I'm from CA so there are plenty of good colleges in San Diego. One for example is UCSD. So try to transfer cause it's good to finish your education first. Anyways if you are planning to transfer then let your mom know that and let her know why. You just have to have courage and tell her. Rememmber you know your mother best. So don't get high hopes of her being okay with it and wishing you luck. In other words exxpect the worst that way you are prepared and you might have back up plans. Anyways good luck with this and I hope your mother will be understanding when you tell her. I also hope you are doing the right thing and that no matter what path your heart takes you on, it will be the right one!
Melissa
