Question I been happily married for 7 years we got one son my husband out of able told me he don't love me and want separation i begged him i cried i fought but nothing changed his mind he stopped sleeping with me since then (4 months) what should i do ? if i ask for khulla or divorce is it wrong to do or i lived like that and killing my needs and desire ?
Answer Hi Shaz
Koran 4:128 And if a woman fears from her husband desertion, or disregard, then there is no sin for them to reconcile between themselves; and reconciliation is good. And the souls are brought by need. And if you are kind and do right, then God is expert over what you do.
But if you find that reconciliation is not possible, there is no sin upon you if you both separate. Your husband does not want to stay with you either so it makes sense to separate amicably.
Hope this helps. Let me know if you have more questions and I'll be glad to answer them.
“And among men are those who purchase idle HADITH (tales) without knowledge to mislead (men) from the Path of God, and make a mockery of it (God’s Path)” [Quran 31: 6]
What most people do not know is that the Islam they mostly see, hear and read about has NOTHING to do with the Koran.
Traditional Islam is based on 2 important sources: Koran & Hadith. Whats Hadith you might ask?
Hadith is a huge hodgepodge collection of the alleged sayings of Muhammad which was compiled 200+ years AFTER the death of Muhammad. Traditional Islam derives most of its laws & rules from THIS body of information. Traditional Muslims believe that these Hadiths are indispensable to their religion & life. So much of importance is paid to these hadiths that
very often the Koran is ignored.
And it is from these hadiths that we get extremely nonsensical & barbaric rules & laws like
death penalty for adulterers & apostates (although the Koran does not advocate any such
punishment), degradation of women, bizarre dress codes for women, killing of those who
insult Muhammad, chopping of hands of thieves etc. I must mention that hadiths also contain
many beautiful teachings too. As I said, its a hodge-podge collection ridden with internal
contradictions.
Criticism of these fanciful stories in hadiths has always existed right from the beginning
but very few muslims care to question its authenticity. They believe that anyone who rejects
hadiths and accepts ONLY the Koran is an infidel! You must also realise that most
translations of the Koran are also done in the light of these hadiths and in some cases the
original meaning of the Koran is twisted to bring it in accord with hadith teachings!
