Expert: Imam Habeeb - 7/25/2008

Question
assalamalakum
i am unmarried girl of 22 yrs and i am having afriend for the past 8 yrs we want to marry but my brother and mother were not agreeing for it and when they agreed for it my friends parent fixed his marraige to someone else and he had to marry that girl he has been married for the past 9month  but doesnt share any intimate relation they havent got physical even once bcoz mentaly he cant accept her now we want to get married but i dont want to ruin the other girl life we dont know what to say to his parents as they adore that girl can he marry me and takes the girl responsibity if she wants and how can we convince his parents is there any hadith abt it now i cant marry someone else bcoz i cant accept any one plz help
khudhafiz  

Answer
He's ruining that other girl and so you have to order him to divorce her afte rexplaining an dmarry you- love is too powerful for you to wait and fear- Islam respects love and hence has never made your marriage conditional to anyone's approval no matter how important they are.