Expert: Imam Habeeb - 11/11/2009

Question
QUESTION: Assalamu alaikum,Dear Imam, Me and my girl made a promise,its an oath like,the promise was,if i betray my girl wheter from body or my heart,allah will make her also betray me.which means Allah will make her also to betray me,and im scared bcoz i betrayed my girl,and i feel scared that allah will make her to betray me.dear imam i broked my promise twice,the 1st time i did from my body and i told her,she forgived me,but the 2dn time i did from my heart,and i dont wana tel her bcoz i dont want her to hate me.dear imam i broked the promise,,i want an answer that almighty allah should forgive me..

ANSWER: This type of oath is not valid in Islam.

Just beg forgivenss to Allah and that is enough and what she doesn't know will not hurt her and she will not have to do any such bad things too.

Stop this type of insane oaths and try and trust each other and live maturedly.

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QUESTION: thanks for your urgent reply sir.I know this is an insane oath,but she is the one who created this oath,but the point is sir,we both have promised on ALLAH,according to our oath,if i do a mistake with a girl from my body or heart ,that ALLAH will also make her to betray me.I wanted to know will ALLAH make her to betray me???

ANSWER: That's up to Allah to decide.

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QUESTION: Dear Imam,,thanks for ur answer.i need to know how can i make allah to forgive me or stop making her betray me?can i give some money to poor ppl or give food to the needs?what can i do to make allah to stop making her betray me?i know its Allah is the one hu decides and does everything,but as per a hadees allah loves us 70times more than our mother's.so any way to make allah happy and not make her to betray me?

Answer
Keep praying and giving sadaqa but as I say you are too paranoia about this- how can you enjoy her when you keep thinking like this? Allah will not make this happen - you have done your repentance and that is enough- she will not do anything she doesn't want to do.