Expert: Imam Habeeb - 11/4/2009

Question
QUESTION: "assalm.i dnt knw if dis is d rt section 2 ask my question bt plz answer it.i m 22 yrs old n im in love wid my cousin who is 8 yrs elder 2 me.in d initial stage of our relationship he jst kissed me twice n after dt wen v realized it ws rong no such intimate act hs ever taken place.i did repent for my mistake bt hw does 1 knw dt d repentance hs been accepted?my second question is dt is masturbating for girls allowed?i hv recently strtd havin dis uncontrolable urge for being wid him n sumtimes dream of having sex wid him,so im forced do masturbate like inserting finger in vagina.how should i control dis if its wrong?i know marriage cud be a solution but v cnt talk abt our marriage to our parents rt nw due to various reasons so is dr another way out?plz answer asap..thanku!"


ANSWER: You could fall in love with your cousin and marry him. If you are age of consent then you donot need your other relatives permission to marry.

Masturbation in your condition is allowed and you should not worry about it being a sin and become paranoid.

Try for marriage and keep your distance as acting responsibly in such a relationship is very important. Be smart!



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QUESTION: thanku so much 4 ur answer..bt u didnt tel me,abt my first question which ws hw does 1 know dt repentance is accepted?secondly i also wanted 2 ask what r d acts dt a male cn do before having sex with a female..cz i hv heard dt having oral sex is nt rt..n i n my partner are also nt for it so wt else can he do 2 instigate me?

Answer
Feeling the need to be close to Allah is the sign!

Leave those things to God what are God's and you do what you are to do as a Servant of God!

Kissing and caressing and talking to each other all are acts that lead to arrousal.

See

http://habeeballi.blogspot.com/search?q=sex