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Question QUESTION: Assalaamualaikum,
my name is Mohammed Nauman, I am 31 years old, I have
two sisters and a brother, I am the eldest amongst the
siblings and my brother is the youngest, my brother doesn't
respect me and often keeps quarreling and fighting with me,
I'll narrate a short incident, which happened
between us, one day, my brother and I had a quarrel on a
small incident, which took place in our house, he started
abusing me with filthy words, and also went to the extent
of threatening to hang and stab me to death. I was very
upset and when my mother came back home, I complained to
her about his behavior, in a fit of anger, I cursed my
younger brother, that one day he'll marry a non-Muslim.
I am working in a small sized company, here
I met a non Muslim girl, initially I was not so much
attracted to her, but a few days after that scuffle with my
brother, I started liking that girl, and gradually fell in
love with her.
Now, I am worried that, neither my religion nor
my parents will accept her.
I am wondering, why my curse, for my brother, has
boomeranged on me,
My question to you is, why Allah had made all the
things happen to me? I mean, the words which I used to
curse my brother, has exactly happened to me, I am really
shocked and don't know what to do. Could it be because, my
brother is very pious and religious, and offers his
obligatory prayers without fail? and my last question to
you is, is it right on the part of my brother to scold me,
disregard and disrespect me?
ANSWER: Bismillahir-Rahmanir-Rahim (In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful)
Allah warns his followers to say kind and generous words in a speech as shaitan is listening and will take advantage of it.
[Quran 17:53] And say to My slaves that they should (only) say those words that are the best. (Because) Shaitan (Satan) verily, sows disagreements among them. Surely, Shaitan (Satan) is to man a plain enemy.
Do astaghfar and tauba and do not ever curse any muslim brother. Your relationship with this girl is illegal. So please if you wish to marry her, ask her hand in marriage and get her to accept islam and marry her. Then there is no problem.
[Quran 19:59] Then, there has succeeded them a posterity who have given up As-Salat (the 5 prayers) and have followed lusts. So they will be thrown in Hell.
[Quran 19:60] Except those who repent and believe (have faith), and work righteousness. Such will enter Paradise and they will not be wronged in aught.
[Quran 20:132] And enjoin As-Salat (the prayer) on your family, and be patient in offering them. We ask not of you a provision We provide for you. And the good end is for the Muttaqun (pious).
[Quran 29:45] Recite (O Prophet Muhammad) what has been revealed to you of the Book (the Quran), and perform As-Salat (5 times prayer). Verily, As-Salatprevents from Al-Fahsha' (great sins) and Al-Munkar (disbelief) and the remembering of (you by) Allah (in front of the angels) is greater indeed.And Allah kn ows what you do.
[Quran 2:238] Guard strictly your prayers, especially the Middle prayer, and stand before Allah (God) in a devout (frame of mind).
rg
ahmer
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QUESTION: walaikumassalaam, ahmer bhai,
thank you so much for replying to my question, I
totally agree with you, that I made a mistake by cursing my
brother, but please can you tell me, was my brother, who is
a devout Muslim, correct, when he scolded me, and
threatened to kill me? Is he not supposed to respect his
elders, is he not supposed to treat me like our father? why
then has the curse, boomeranged on me? And also I would
like to tell you that the girl whom I have fallen in love
with, is a Christian girl, and I have read, one of your
replies, on a similar topic, where you have mentioned that
a Muslim man is allowed to marry a Christian girl. But, my
dear brother Ahmer, sorry to tell you, that one of my
cousins has informed me that, it is clearly prohibited in
one of the verses of the Holy Quran, "Surah" "Baqrah"
chapter 2 verse 222 (correct me if I am wrong). I request
you to please explain to me in detail, regarding, my
brother, disrespecting me and to the question of marrying a
Christian girl.
Looking forward to hear from you,
Thanking you,
Regards
Nauman
Answer Bismillahir-Rahmanir-Rahim (In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful)
Assalmalaikum
Dear Nauman,
Actually you can marry the people of the book. There is no harm in it provided they are chaste.
As for your brother, he was wrong to curse you. Whatever boomeranged on you maybe for good.
Bukhari Volumn 003, Book 043, Hadith Number 662.
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Narated By Abu Huraira : Allah's Apostle said, "There was an Israeli man called Juraij, while he was praying, his mother came and called him, but he did not respond to her call. He said (to himself) whether he should continue the prayer or reply to his mother. She came to him the second time and called him and said, "O Allah! Do not let him die until he sees the faces of prostitutes." Juraij used to live in a hermitage. A woman said that she would entice Juraij, so she went to him and presented herself (for an evil act) but he refused. She then went to a shepherd and allowed him to commit an illegal sexual intercourse with her and later she gave birth to a boy. She alleged that the baby was from Juraij. The people went to Juraij and broke down his hermitage, pulled him out of it and abused him. He performed ablution and offered the prayer, then he went to the male (baby) and asked him; "O boy! Who is your father?" The baby replied that his father was the shepherd. The people said that they would build for him a hermitage of gold but Juraij asked them to make it of mud only."
As for the vers of the quran you mentioned, it does not carry any such commandment.
[Quran 2:222] They ask thee concerning women's courses. Say: They are a hurt and a pollution: So keep away from women in their courses, and do not approach them until they are clean. But when they have purified themselves, ye may approach them in any manner , time, or place ordained for you by Allah (God). For Allah (God) loves those who turn to Him constantly and He loves those who keep themselves pure and clean.
