Expert: A. Abraham - 6/24/2009

Question
My parents were divorced when I was 3 yrs old. Since then, I am with my mom. Now I am 34 yrs old. I have 7 yrs old daughter. Since my 3 yrs she abused me phisically and mentally till I got marrried. I want to tell about my abusive childhood. She used to beat me up with wires, hangers, belt and etc for any reason. She used to make me clean whole house. When I was 5 or 6 yrs she used to lock me inside the bathroom at night almost everyday, I slept in the floor and next day when she open the door in the morning I would go to school. Sometimes she has tied me with rope in her bed make me stand by tying me at back with my two hands. she slept for whole night, I were standing by the bed. She made me naked and kept me stand outside the door so others can see me. She spit on the floor and make me swallow it with my tongue. If I fall sleep while studing she would take me in bathroom drown my face into the bucket and put soap in my face so I don't see anything then she beat me up. These are few things I am telling My mother did to me whole my life till we came to america. Now I have 7 yrs old daughter I love her more than my life. This all tortured reminds me everyday which make me cry so much. Islam says to respect our parents. I really want to know so much, this kind of abusive mother where I never can remember I were ever kissed by her. Does Islam say anything about abusive mother? I still love my Mother after my daughter. She is the most important person in my life. Please let me know If i don't want to talk to her without any disrespect. Am I doing any sin?

Answer
Dear Shamima,

I am so sorry to hear about your horrible childhood. However, my expertise is ONLY in answering questions Muslims have regarding the Christian view of Christianity and its teaching. I answer questions about Jesus, the Injeel, Zabur, Torah, how to get forgiveness, or the Christian perspective of questions Muslims ask. The Christian perspective of your situation is as follows:

You mother needs to be respected and loved. Because she needs help you need to go to the USA authorities and tell them how she abused you. Love wants the best for those we love. To hide these things will not be of any benefit to both you and her.

For possible later reference please visit: www.christianityexplained.net


Kind regards,

A. Abraham