Expert: Ahmer - 6/24/2009

Question
a proposal from a woman came to me. she told me that she had a past in which she went to nightclubs and did not dress properly but now she has regretted her sins and repented and is a practising muslim.

i rejected the proposal because my heart cannot accept a woman who had no shame. yes she has changed and i know i should see how she is now and not before but i feel very strongly against nightclubs and it is something i cannot tolerate and cannot accept and something that i know would affect my love for this woman.

is this decision valid?

Answer
if the women has repented, she is clean. If you are too not a virgin, then accept her proposal. Her confession is the greates proof of her faith in Allah.

Quran [39:54] "Turn you to your Lord (in repentance) and bow to His (Will), before the Penalty comes on you: after that you shall not be helped.

Quran [39:55] "And follow the Best of (the courses) revealed to you from your Lord, before the Penalty comes on you - of a sudden while you perceive not!

[Quran 61:10] O you who believe! Shall I lead you to a bargain that will save you from a grievous Penalty?

[Quran 61:11] That you believe in Allah and His Messenger, and that you strive (your utmost) in the Cause of Allah, with your property and your persons: That will be best for you, if you but knew!

[Quran 61:12] He will forgive you your sins, and admit you to Gardens beneath which Rivers flow, and to beautiful mansions in Gardens of Eternity: that is indeed the Supreme Achievement.

[Quran 61:13] And another (favour will He bestow,) which you do love,- help from Allah and a speedy victory. So give the Glad Tidings to the Believers.

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ahmer