Expert: Ahmer - 7/3/2009

Question
asalam o alikum,
my aunt a young lady is in iddat and confuse about some matters,
1.is she allowed to talk on the phone with her brother in law who calls him normally to discuss any problem.
2. she lives in a flat, can she go out for a walk with her sisters on terris in night. except them no one uses the terris.
3.  can she go out from home, if there is no one to bring their children from the school.

thanks

Answer
Bismillahir-Rahmanir-Rahim (In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful)

Assalmalaikum

Dear Laiba,

The following is the hadith regarding this issue.


Bukhari Volumn 007, Book 063, Hadith Number 254.
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Narated By Um 'Atiyya : We were forbidden to mourn for more than three days for a dead person, except for a husband, for whom a wife should mourn for four months and ten days (while in the mourning period) we were not allowed to put kohl in our eyes, nor perfume our-selves, nor wear dyed clothes, except a garment of 'Asb (special clothes made in Yemen). But it was permissible for us that when one of us became clean from her menses and took a bath, she could use a piece of a certain kind of incense. And it was forbidden for us to follow funeral processions.


Bukhari Volumn 007, Book 063, Hadith Number 255.
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Narated By Um 'Atiyya : The Prophet said, "It is not lawful for a lady who believes in Allah and the Last Day, to mourn for more than three days for a dead person, except for her husband, in which case she should neither put kohl in her eyes, nor perfume herself, nor wear dyed clothes, except a garment of 'Asb" Um 'Atiyya added: The Prophet said, "She should not use perfume except when she becomes clean from her menses whereupon she can use Qust, and Azfar (two kinds of incense).

rg
ahmer