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Assalamu alaykom,
At age of 6 i was violently sexually abused which really affected my life ever since. The problem is there's a respectful guy who proposed to me and i really like him, but i'm afraid from marriage as the the idea of intercourse is really a nightmare to me. I had several attempts for psychological treatment but they all failed. In addition to I have been suffering from a unexplained tumors on my ovaries and i may have to remove them surgically which will make me infertile. I have explained to him everything but he sill wants to marry me desperately. I'm afraid i can't offer him anything in this marriage and make him suffer with me. I heard that if there wasn't intercourse after 3 months from marriage they should be separated. Please I need your advice urgently.

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Bismillahir-Rahmanir-Rahim (In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful)

Assalmalaikum

Dear Sister,

There is no such things as if you have no intercouse your marriage is invalid. Only if he divorces you will your marriage become invalid.

I beleive you consult your family members and the elderly over this marriage. If they suggest you to go ahead, then please proceed for the marriage. Since you already have explained to this person your problem, and he seems still interested, then there shouldnt be any problems.

Also one should expect the good things from Allah. Whatever happened in the past doesnt mean the future is dark. Allah will help you regain all the necessary things a women may have. Just move ahead and start your life afresh.

All the best and May Allah grant you rewards for the suffering in childhood.


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