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Assalamu alaikum,

I have question about marriage.

Currently Iím 24 unmarried and want to get married. I have been in-contact with someone for 10 years. He has asked me out a few times in the past. I have liked him on and off since Iíve known him, although we have never been in a relationship and have only really communicated through texts and rarely phone calls.

At the moment he is in another country and isnít back til April. He said he wants a relationship, but respects that I have never done that before and that there would be no physical aspect to it.

We have spoke about marriage and I realised that we are in two different places. When he comes back heís going to need to get a job and we are going to need to meet see if we want to marry each other. Either way he wants to get married in a year or two or maybe even three, til heís in a comfortable job and we get to know each other.

I am in a place where I want to get married, not sure I want to wait for someone who Iím not even sure think will work out.  He has a few bad habits that I really donít like, like drinking occasionally and smoking. He says he will stop them both and has recently stopped drinking because of our discussion.

Neither of us is very religious and I know I should be asking Allah for guidance and probably do an istikhara. I donít want to do the wrong thing and I donít want to hurt him either.

What do you think I should do?



Ahamduiaah Presently I am out of the country at an Interfaith Conference Inshaa Allaah - So, I apologize for not being able to answer your question at this time - please forgive me for that Inshaa Allaah-  as soon as I have some availability , I will try to answer your question Inshaa Allaah -however, please do not hesitate to send me a reminder  Inshaa Allaah

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BRIEF BIO Shaikh Shafayat was born, in Trinidad, West Indies, where he attended College etc.. Due to his multi-faith and cultural upbringing, he was awarded a scholarship to become a Christian Minister. In 1975 he went to India to study Islam and became the first student from the Caribbean and North America to have enrolled in Darul Uloom Deoband, which is the largest and oldest Islamic Institute in India. In addition to graduating as a Qaari and Islamic Scholar, he also did a course in Journalism and established the Al Hikmat Muslim Magazine, plus he produced many television and radio programs in Trinidad and Florida USA. In 1983 he founded the National Muslim Sports League of Trinidad and Tobago, which established the Islamic Home for Children. He is the Founder/Principal of Darul Uloom Institute in Pembroke Pines Florida and the first Muslim to become President of the Interfaith Council of South Florida in the year 2002. He organized and conducted many Christian / Muslim / Jewish Dialogues in Churches, Synagogues and Islamic Centers in the U.S.A.. Shaikh Shafayat was the first Muslim to represent Islam at a Florida State Faith Summit, held at the Capitol Building with Gov. Jeb Bush in the year 2000. He is a recipient of the Silver Medallion Award from NCCJ (a national interfaith organization) and a recipient of the Peacemaker Award from St. Thomas University in Miami. For many years he lectured on Islam and terrorism to Pembroke Pines Police of South Florida and other Law Enforcement Officers. He lectures throughout the U.S.A. and worldwide on Islam, Interfaith Issues and Cultural Diversity.

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