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Asalam alaekum waramotulilahi wabarakatul, I am a Muslim male from a Muslim family, I fall in love with a Muslim lady from another country (foreigner) for about six year now. The lady's father is of late but she has a younger brother who is mature,understand Al-quran and hadith  and knows the right from wrong. The problem now is her mummy, she does not want her to marry me cos I am not from their country. She had try to force the lady into marriage with people from her country and she hard also try to force us to leave each other but with the help of Allah (swt) we are still together. After she realise that everything she is doing is not working, she started to curse us. Now the lady is scared because of the curse. I try to ask some Muslim scholars and I was told that, if the father had died,the next person that have the right to give the lady hand in married is the man's son (according to Islamic sariah (law). I alway ask the son for this and he always support us to marry each other. The lady always help her mummy and follow the rules the prophet Muhammad (saw) ask us to obey for our mother. Now because the woman and her friends had create an ideal of their own, that, none of their daughter should marry a foreigner so she don't want to feel ashamed in the midst of her friends. My question now is will the curse affect us as the brother (the lady's brother) support us. Also,the lady is scare and want to quit because of the curse. Can you help me with the verse of the Quran and Hadith in which I can use to talk to the lady.
Jazaka lahu

No curse can afect you as this is false and anyone who curses someone they will get the curse instead as it goes to the Throne and returns to them.

You both have the maturity to consent to each other and marry without her mother or brother's consent. That is Islamic concept of Nikah. She has the right to choose her partner without father or mother consent.

4:3 If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, Marry women of your choice, Two or three or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one, or (a captive) that your right hands possess, that will be more suitable, to prevent you from doing injustice.


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Being an Educator of Islamic Studies and Interfaith discussions for the past 25 years and having authored seventeen books and numerous articles on Islam - I think I can answer questions on Islam and other religions and issues of the Hanafi jurisprudence as well as general questions on Quran and Sharia. Love, sex and marital problems are some such topics! This is an independent volunteering service and not under any organizational banner that I may be affiliated with. My book- Intimacy and the Sacred talks about Sex and Muslims.


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