I am 25 female single.i am facing some problems which are making me hopeless..i try to face them without getting weak but i am not so strong i am just so tired. My parents cant understand me..they dont even ask what i need? I never asked them any thing but it doesnt mean i dont want any thing..when i wish for something i cant tell my parents to fullfill it because i fear i may not wasye their money i have always killed my wishes...my family members quarell every time and their has been disputes in my family since i was born and bcz of that i have no relatives..i feel so lonely. I too want to spend my own life my own way..i want to get married but my parents dont want to know me..they think i am still a baby..many girls my age and younger are getting married it is bringing me in some sort of inferiority..i dnt want my life spending this way...my duty here is just to take care of my younger siblings..i think i am gone crazy.i am always in the fare of having another sibbling...i dont want any more sibblings of mine..i know this is not me to decide but what makes me feel bad is that my parents dont understand me..i have been trying to concentrate on my studies but these fares and inferiority doesnt allow me..i like a guy in our relatives but never speaked to him..i even told my mother about him but she said u r a girl and we cant ask him to marry you...this was the only wish i told them but of no use..i am so tired i just want to sit in some secret corner no body knows..i never acheved what i want if its things related to education job or other worldly things..how tell my parents i am tired of this life and dont want more sibblings ? What will islam tell me to do?
Answer ASSALAAMU ALAIKUM W.B
I understand your situation and feel sorry for you - I think you need to tell your problem to a local Shaikh or Imaam who could talk to your parents on your behalf Inshaa Allaah.
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Shaikh Shafayat was born, in Trinidad, West Indies, where he attended College etc.. Due to his multi-faith and cultural upbringing, he was awarded a scholarship to become a Christian Minister.
In 1975 he went to India to study Islam and became the first student from the Caribbean and North America to have enrolled in Darul Uloom Deoband, which is the largest and oldest Islamic Institute in India. In addition to graduating as a Qaari and Islamic Scholar, he also did a course in Journalism and established the Al Hikmat Muslim Magazine, plus he produced many television and radio programs in Trinidad and Florida USA. In 1983 he founded the National Muslim Sports League of Trinidad and Tobago, which established the Islamic Home for Children.
He is the Founder/Principal of Darul Uloom Institute in Pembroke Pines Florida and the first Muslim to become President of the Interfaith Council of South Florida in the year 2002. He organized and conducted many Christian / Muslim / Jewish Dialogues in Churches, Synagogues and Islamic Centers in the U.S.A.. Shaikh Shafayat was the first Muslim to represent Islam at a Florida State Faith Summit, held at the Capitol Building with Gov. Jeb Bush in the year 2000.
He is a recipient of the Silver Medallion Award from NCCJ (a national interfaith organization) and a recipient of the Peacemaker Award from St. Thomas University in Miami. For many years he lectured on Islam and terrorism to Pembroke Pines Police of South Florida and other Law Enforcement Officers. He lectures throughout the U.S.A. and worldwide on Islam, Interfaith Issues and Cultural Diversity.