Please advise a way forward solution to the following situation,myself and my wife argue only due to her mother issue,and false allegation build by their family,my wife is totally inclined towards her mother,brother and sister.she is not much interested in my family,her mother practices saints worship,and has saints decibels photographs in her house,prays salah in front of that.I am against this.secondly my wife wants my children to be with her in her mothers house.my concern is can I allow my children to go to her mothers house?is my rights towards her mother and her relatives greater than me and my family and children's?
She argues the state of mother for her is higher than anything else,i agree mother status is high,how much is it applicable for a married woman.
Appreciate your response.
Bismillahir-Rahmanir-Rahim (In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful)
Her rights for her mother is their. But she has to serve your household and look after her children and husband.
[Quran 2:187] They are Libas [i.e. body cover, or screen, or Sakan, (i.e. you enjoy the pleasure of living with her)for you and you are the same for them.
[Quran 2:223] Your wives are a tilth for you, so go to your tilth (have sexual relations with your wives in any manner as long as it is in the vagina and not in the anus), when or how you will, and send (good deeds, or ask Allah to bestow upon you pious offspring) before you for your ownselves. And fear Allah, and know that you are to meet Him (in the Hereafter), and give good tidings to the believers (O Prophet Muhammad).
[Quran 4:34] Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allah and to their husbands), and guard in the husband's absence what Allah orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husband's property, etc.). As to those women on whose part you see illconduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful), but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allah is Ever Most High, Most Great.
Since her mother is involved in bidaat or better say shirk (because she prays in front of pictures) therefore you need to work dawah on her. REcite the quran in front of her and make her understand its meanings.
However limit your childrens visit at her place and instruct your wife to teach her mother quran and correct islamic practices otherwise she might end in Hell.
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( Note: I am not a mufti, if you are in doubt or want 100% accuracy please verify the above hadith with an authentic personality. However I have not altered any hadith and presented it as and how it was found. May Allah forgive our mistakes from time to time...ameen.)