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Al-Salam Alykum,
I have some questions that worry me a lot. Al-hamduliallah I am a virgin and haven't done anything bad, I never talked to guys , but I do play sports like horse back riding and I ride my bicycle, until one day my friend told me its haram, because my hymen will break an I will no longer be a virgin...I'm so scared now , what if I broke my hymen? My future husband will hate me an maybe even kill me...I'm an Arab that lives in an Arab country and virginity is very important...so please Akhi I'm so scared what can I do, I can't tell anyone from my family because its not a topic to talk about...I'm sorry in advance, but what if I get married and my husband gets mad, what should I do, say, react? I'm so worried and terrified because I'm in the age of marriage and most of my friends are married, so I'm really scared if I get divorced or he will hate me.
Thanks in advance

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Virginity is not a condition of marriage or piety and it's unfortunate that your culture has put so much emphasis on this although Islam knows that a girl can lose her hymen form heavy periods or horse riding. See a doctor with a friend and make sure you are fine.
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Imam Habeeb

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Being an Educator of Islamic Studies and Interfaith discussions for the past 25 years and having authored seventeen books and numerous articles on Islam - I think I can answer questions on Islam and other religions and issues of the Hanafi jurisprudence as well as general questions on Quran and Sharia. Love, sex and marital problems are some such topics! This is an independent volunteering service and not under any organizational banner that I may be affiliated with. My book- Intimacy and the Sacred talks about Sex and Muslims. http://www.iuniverse.com/Bookstore/BookDetail.aspx?BookId=SKU-000463374

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I have helped thousands of people who are troubled both in life experiences and lack of proper Islamic knowledge.

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Latest book Five White Roses and A Red a book of Poetry dedicated to my mother.

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http://www.iuniverse.com/Bookstore/BookDetail.aspx?BookId=SKU-000463374

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Muslims and Non Muslims. I love Interfaith activities.
Youths and issues of generational gap are my areas too. Families under stress.

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