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   I have a seemingly stupid problem but is quite persistent and is really bothering please help..

Is there such a phobia for marriage?
Its like this: suppose i had a job that pays 450 USD a month(which would already be luck of me in our country) and i hav 3 to 4 kids,all of them schooling, 2 in college. and if each college pays 180 bucks per mo, how do i sustain a family when i have to build them a house and other expenses whn i am the breadwinner? It doesn't just mathematically add up..its really irritating. how do i get rid of this? do help..thanks.

ANSWER: Bismillahir-Rahmanir-Rahim (In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful)


Dear Brother/Sister,

There is no need to suppose. It will Allah that will provide sustenance for you and for your family.

You may look back in history and notice that when the world population was very low...people used to live in poverty. Now the world population is massive and more or less people are living life of luxury.

[Quran 24:32] Marry those among you who are single, or the virtuous ones among yourselves, male or female: if they are in poverty, Allah (God) will give them means out of His grace: for Allah (God) encompasseth all, and he knoweth all things.

[Quran Surah Anam 6:151] Say: "Come, I will rehearse what Allah/God has (really) prohibited you from : " Join not anything as equal with Him; be good to your parents; kill not your children on a plea of want - We provide sustenance for you and for them............


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QUESTION: I am just astonished how people with lower income than i supposed are able to maintain a family..with even greater number of children than i supposed..and how do they do it. Its just when i add up the expenses mathematically they don't add up..its insufficient.. it bothers my mind so much that i dont seem to want to marry

Practical is always different than theory.
that's why Allah asks the beleivers to put their trust on him.

[Quran 2:256] Let there be no compulsion in religion: Truth stands out clear from Error: whoever rejects evil and believes in Allah/God has grasped the most trustworthy hand-hold, that never breaks. And Allah/God hears and Knows all things.

[Quran 28:82] And those who had envied his position the day before began to say on the morrow: "Ah! it is indeed Allah Who enlarges the provision or restricts it, to any of His servants He pleases! had it not been that Allah was gracious to us, He could have caused the earth to swallow us up! Ah! those who reject Allah will assuredly never prosper."  


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