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QUESTION: Subject: Waswasy aor aqal py pardy ke soorat main talaq

Aslamualikum…
Sir main bohat pershan hun please mere help krin.aor sir please btayin k ab mujhy kia krna chahey..masla lekhny sy pehly kuch apny bary main lekh rha hun ta k mare condition clear ho jy.masly ke length py mazrat krta hun.

Sir internet py main ny kafi talaq k masly parhy hain.jn main mufti sahib un ko medical treatment ka mashvra dety hain.kia mery case main mujhy medical treatment ke zaroort hy?sir munh sy kuch neklny k bad pta chalta hy k ye kia ho gea us sy pehly ni pta chalta.mere koshish k bawajood ye waswasy mare jan ni chorty aor ye mere psand ke shadi hy.

Sir mujhy weham b hy jesy wazu sahi ni hoa aor dobara krta hun aor kbi namaz main khyial ata hy namaz pore ni parhe aor dobara parhta hun.kbi lagta hy wazu toot gea hy aor dobara krta hun.bike py jaty hoy aksar pocket check krta hun k kahin kuch gir to ni gea.zadia logon ke vja sy gabrahat hote hy.akyla rehna acha lagta hy.ayatul kursi parhty hoy aksar bad main yd ata hy k pta nai pore parhe the ya bech main he choor de.aor gushal krty hoy hr bar yahe lagta hy k kule sahi ni hoe aor 10,15 dfa kule krta hun phr b shak he rehta hy k sahi ni hoe ab khail ata hy k abi b napak he hun.ghr main koi chez grte hy to door k dekhta hun k koi banda to ni gir gea.aor ab koi b lafaz “talaq” boly batoun k doran to mujhy bht bechane hoti hy.
mufti sahib main ny apna sara masla detail k sath lekh dia hy.ap please btin kia mery pas behtre koi sorat hy. .main is bat sy bht drta hun k kahein mujh sy koi galat kam na ho jy.ye sara masla nekah k 30,40 dino k andr pesh aya .ab aik saal ho gia nekh ko..hmare abi ruksti ni hoe lekin mulakat hote rehte hy.kia hm ab b aik sath reh sakty hain. In sab baton k bad main bemar ho gea.mery sar main hr time pain hony lga.aor main bht zadia rony lg jata.mera 5 kg weight kam ho gea aor bhok b ni lgte the.sara din sway pani ya ak do luqmy khany k alva kuch ni khat tha.har time bstr py pra rehta.
Mujhy ye msla pesh any k bad hr time sar k opr valy hisy main sheed drd hota.phr ak din bht zadia drd hony lg gea aor esy hony lg gea k jesy mujhy brain hamrej ho jy ge.main bht zadia rony lg gea aor bar bar apny sar ko bar bar pakrta. Mery walid shab ny mujhy zehne sakoon ke wai de to kuch tbit thek hoe.mere is condition to dekh k ghar valon y kha k is kesy physiological doctor ko dekhty hain.
Phr main bhi k sath demage doctor k pas gea.Doctor ny mujhy sy sara masla suna aor pocha k bevi sy koi lrai to ni hoe..Main ny btia k koi lrai ni hoe aor mujh sy kuch sawal pochy aor mujhy btia k tmhin OCD(“Obsessive compulsive disorder ”) hy. Aor mujhy dwai de. ..us k bad main kuch behtr ho gea.

.mujh sy doctor ny kuch sawal pochy k ghar k locks bar bar check krty ho k lgia hy ya ni ya pocket bar bar check krty ho k koi cheez gir to ni gy.mera sath esa hota b hy mtlb main pocket b check krta rehta hun ...sir mere abi b tbit thek ni rehte hr time yahe dar laga rehta hy k kahein kuch hoa to ni.hr waqt ye he masla mery zehn main taza rehta hy.phr kbi lagta hy k kuch ni hoa sb the hy.

Sir ab b hr waqt yahe dr laga rehta hy k kahein munh sy kuch nekal na jy.aor ye sara masla hr time zehan main taza rehta hy.tbit b soch soch kr khrab rahte hy.kbi esa lagta hy k ye kam kea to talaq ho jy ge.sir please mere help krin.mery talaq deny ke koi neyit ni hy lekin kam ho jany k bad lagta hy ni tm ny jan bojh k ye kam kea hy aor phr esy he lgat hy k pta ni mere neyt the ya ni .
Sir main ny computer engineering achy marks sy ke hy lekin pta ni nekah k bd kia ho gea aob ab koi kam krny ko dil b ni krta.hr waqt dr laga rehta hy k kahein kuch ho na gea ho…
(1)..mera ak saal pehly nekah hoa.nekah k din sy he mujhy ulty sedhy khiayl any shru ho gy k jesy mery munh sy asy alfaz na nekl jain k jin k kehny sy rishta khtm ho jy.main apne pore koshish krta rha k munh sy ase koi bt na nekly.ye sentence “main saima to talaq” ka bar bar khyail ata.lekin mre pore koshish k bawajood nekh k 2,3 roz bd main ghar k bhar akyla khra tha pas b koi nahi tha.Main kudh sy us time btin b nahi kr rha tha. mre kuch kehny ke nyit b nahi the.mery zehan main is time talaq ka waswasa a rha tha.achanak mujhy khyail aya aor mre munh sy ye alfaz nekl gy " main saima ko talaq" .is k agay kuch ni kha k deta hun ya ni .main bht pershan hoa k ye kia ho gea.kun k mera asa kehny ke koi intention ni the.mujh kudh ni pta chla k ye kesy munh sy nekl gea.mujhy kafi hd th yaken hy k just zaban shyid thore c  move hoe the lekin koi awaz ni bne.kia ase sorat main talaq waqia ho gay ? yahan saima main ny name suppose kea hy apni bevi ka name ni lea.

(2)..main ny local mufti sahab sy pocha k " main saima ko talaq" munh sy nekl gea hy.unhon ny kha asa kehny sy kuch ni hoa..main kush ho gea k kuch ni hoa.is k bad main ghar wapis a rha tha  phr   mujhy ye khyail ana shru ho gea k tm ny pora jumla kha hy k " main saima ko talaq deta hun".main 2,3 din note krta rha mujhy lga k main ny is k agay kuch ni kha.mujhy pershani  hony lg gy k tm ny pora jumla kha hy.mujhy bar bar khyail ata k dekho to sahi tm ny pora jumla kha hy.main closed lips k sath mtlb mera munh bnd tha aor bnd munh main  kbi “ main saima ko talaq” ,ya “main saima  ko talaq deta hun” Bnd munh main kehta...mera is sy talaq deny ka koi irada nahi tha.mujhy bs yahe pershai lg gy the k kahein main ny pora jumla to ni kha.is trha closed lips k sath kuch awaz to produce hote the lekin wo mery khail sy kese ko samjh ni a sakte the.kia is trha closed lips k sath bnd munh main  kehny sy kuch hota hy?.aor mery mind main mufti sahab sy pochny k  bd yahe tha k jb tk pora jumla na kha jy kuch ni hota.

(3)..is k bad mujhy pershani lg gy k munh main kehny sy kuch hoa to ni.main ak imam masjd sahab k pas gea aor kha k munh main kehny sy kuch hoa to ni.aor lafaz "talaq" bnd munh ,bnd hont sy kha k kia asa kehny sy kuch hoa to ni.unhon ny kha ni agr is sy zadia awaz clear ho to ho jate hy.main ny imam shaba sy swal pochny k ley bnd munh,bnd hont sy lafz " talaq" kha tha k ase sorat hy.kia mera asy kehny sy kuch hoa?

(4)..ak din main subha utha  aor kuch dair bad ,main bistar py sedha leta hoa tha.aor use time mujhy  khyail aya k “main saima ko talaq” is sy agy tm ny kuch kha tu ni..main ny closed lips(bnd hont)  k sath munh main kha "main apne bevi ko ya main saima ko”… talaaaq".main is pory jumly ko bnd  munh main he kehna chahta tha lekin pta ni kis trha lafaz "talaq" munh sy bhr nekl gea..mujhy lagta hy mujhy bs “tala” ke thore c awaz ay hy aor “q”(“kaaf”) ke awaz ni aye. .Jb “tala” munh sy nekla to us k bad aaq ke awaz ni ay.jb tala munh sy nekla to aaq halka sa  lamba ho gea طلا آ ق .aor mujhy kudh pta ni chla k ks trha ye munh sy nekl  gea.Allah tala janta hy k mere koi neyit ni the aor bevi k mery zehan main door tk koi khyial nit ha..agr pora lafaz”talaq” sahi trha ada ni hoa to ase sort main kia talaq waqia ho jate hy?..aor sir main ny suna hy k agr banda akyla ho aor just “talaq” munh sy nekl jy aor bevi ya us ka name ly k manssob (relate) na kea jy to talaq ni hote.kia mery case main ye bt apply ke ja sakte hy.kun k just “talaq” he munh sy nekla hy jab k baki jumla kehty hoy munh bnd tha ..
Is k bad main ny us local mufti js sy pehly pocha tha us  sy pocha k just lafaz “talaq” munh sy nekla hy  to unhon ny btia k kuch ni hoa.main ny unhin ghr bula k apny walid sahib sy b mulakat krvae aor ghr main b unhon ny kha k kuch ni hoa.
(5).phr mujhy aik din khyail aya k kese aor mufti sahab sy b pochna chahey.main ny ak aor mufti sahab sy apna masla mobile phone py discuss kea.aor ye b btia k waswasy aty hain.unhoun ny kuch ni pocha k ye masla kesy pesh aya.unhin 2 batin btin (jo oper pehly lekhe hain) k ak din akyla khra tha to “main saima ko talaq” aor ak din  "main apne bevi ko ya main saima ko” talaq"(is jumly main just talaq munh sy nekla)..munh sy nekl gea..unhon ny kha ye 2 talaq e ragi hoe hain ap raju kr lain.main ny unhin btia b aik mufti sabab sy pocha tha wo to kh rhy thy k kuch ni hoa..main ny apny walid sahab sy b un ke bt krvai.walad sahab sy b un ke yahe bt hoe.phone bnd hony k bad walid sahab ny kha k tm raju kr lo.tm kehna k main raju krta hun.in mufti sahab ny bt is trha ke k jesy bandy ko yaken ho gea k waqey 2 talaqin ho gy hain.abi hm use room main akthy bethy k main ny walid sahab sy kha" abu ge ye tu 2 ho gayin .ab mery pas ak haq reh gea?" walid sahab ny kha k tm ny kia haq check kr k dehna hy.main ny kha ni main to asy he poch rha tha.yahan jo bat main ny apny walid sahab sy khe k “abu ge ye tu 2 ho gayin” kia esa kehny sy kuch hoa?.main ny ye bat esy ke k jesy ye to esy ho gea ab kia mery pas ak haq reh gea.jo bt main ny apny walid sahib sy khe kia is sy kuch hoa.  pher main ny kha k pehly valy mufti shab to kh rhy k kuch ni hoa.ye 2nd valy kh  rhy hain 2 ho gay hain.main kl pehly   valy mufti shab sy pochoun ga.

(6) Phr main pehly valy mufti sahab k pas gea aor apna masla lekh kr ly gea.wo us time  masjd main thy aor un k kuch aor sathi b thy unhon ny dekh kr kha k kuch ni hoa.is masly main wohe 2 batin lekhin k ak din akyla khra tha to “main saima ko talaq” aor ak din  "main apne bevi ko ya main saima ko” talaq"(is jumly main just talaq munh sy nekla) . masjd main mufti sahab ny pocha k ap ny kese ko ye to ni kha k “mere bevi ko 2 talaqin ho gayin”.main ny  kha k asa to kuch ni kha albata walid sahib sy kha tha k “te tu 2 ho gayin. ab mery pas aik haq reh gea?”.tu mufti sahib ny kha ye to dekhana pry ga.mufti sahib ny kha k ap ny apny wadil sy jo kha hy ye jhote khabr  hy agr bandy ny apne bevi ko talaq na b de ho aor kese ko bta dy k mere bevi ko talaq ho gy to wo b ho jate hy
.main ny agly din phone kr k mufti shaba sy kha k main ny na to talaq ka lafaz use kea hy na bevi ka lafaz  kha hy pher ye kesy jhote khabr bn gy.mufti sahib ny kha k ap bat to talaq ke he kr rhy thy.
(7)Yahan tk masla pesh any k bad main apne pore koshish kr rha tha k ab munh sy kuch na nekly.mujhy bhai ny phone kea aor kha k tm sehtani waswasy door krny vale dua parh lo.main kafi dair tk dua parhta rha.abi main dua parh he  rha tha k  achnak mujhy khiayl aya k na to main ny bevi ka name lea hy aor na kuch aor kha hy pher ye kesy jhote khabr bn gy.use time mujhy khiayl aya k dakhta hun k ye kesy jhote khabr bnte hy.mery zehan main wohe mufti vale bt the k ap ny kese sy ye to ni kha k mere bevi ko 2 talaqin ho gayin aor jo bt main ny khe the k ye to 2 ho gayin. main utha aor ghr k side py ja kr dewar ke trf finger ke or kudh sy kha. ““mere bevi ko 2 talaqin ho gayin,ho gayin” aor ye jo bat ye tu 2 ho gayin.samjh ni a rhe k kesy khabr bnte hy.phr main right side turn hoa aor kha “ mere bevi ko 2 talaqin ho gayin” “aor dil main socha ye tu 2 ho gayin” .aor phr kudh sy kha ni kuch ni hoa asy koi khabr ni bnte””. aor kush ho gea  k kuch ni hoa aor phr ak lamhy  k bad mujhy shock lga jesy bandy ko hosh a gea ho k ye main kia kr rha tha.halan k is bat k kehny sy pehly mujhy yehe khailyl aya tha k na to main ny bevi ka name lea hy aor na kuch aor kha hy pher ye kesy jhote khabr bn gy aor phr main ny ja k wohe kuch kh dia js main bevi aor talaq dono lafaz thy .us time mery zehan main tha k ho gay kehny sy kuch ni hota.pehla jumla” mere bevi ko 2 talaqin ho gayin” is main bevi aor talaq dono words use hoy is ka mery demag ny alarm ni bjia  aor 2nd jumla “ye tu 2 ho gayin” is main kuch b ni tha ye mujhy alarming  vale bt lge.is k end py b ho gy tha aor pehly valy jumly k end py b ho gy.phr bad main shock lgta hy ye main kia kr rha tha.kia mere is condition ko aqal py prada kh ja sakta hy.. ye sab  kehny k doran main ny ye bat “ye tu 2 ho gayin ” ye bat bnd munh bnd hont k sath khe .kun k mery khail sy ye bat khatry vale the aor “mere bevi ko 2 talaqin ho gayin” is ka mery zehan main tha k asa kehny  sy kuch ni hota.ye sab kuch kehny sy pehly mery zehan main ni aya k asa na kehna ye bat thek ni hy.us time mery demag ny kam krna chor dia.mujhy ni pta tha k mian kia kr rha hun mujhy to bs ye dekh rha tha in dono baton “mere bevi ko 2 talaqin ho gain” aor “ye tu 2 ho gayin” k ye kesy khabr bnte hy.mian in dono baton ko compare kr  k dakh rha tha js ke vja sy      munh sy ye sab nekla.important bat is masly main ye hy k ye alfaz “mere bevi ko 2 talaqin ho gayin” ye mery alfaz ni thy ye to use mufti k alfaz thy jb unhoun ny mujh sy pocha tha k ap ny kese ko ye to ni kha k mere bevi ko 2 talaqin ho gayin.mery zehan main une k alfaz thy. main  un ke he alfaz dohra rha tha .main ny suna hy temporary  insane person ke talaq ni hote..kia mery case main jo main ny kha kia isy aqal py padre kha ja sakta hy kun ye kam krny sy pehly jesy aqal bnd ho gy aor bad main hosh a gea aor  main ny jb ye bat khe us time mery zehan main door door tk  bevi k bary main asa koi khail ni tha k ye kia hony lga hy main to bs dekh rha tha k ye kesy jhote khabr bne.pehly mujhy pta ni chla aor phr wo kam ho jany k bad mujhy hosh ata hy k ye main kia kr rha hun.kia is bat ko esy kha ja sakta hy k sehtan ny esa krny sy pehly mere aqal py parda dal dia aor kam ho jany k bd mujhy yd dela dea k ye tm kia kr rhy thy.kia ase sort  main talaq waqia ho jate hy?. Yahn ak personal bt share kr dun k is bt k bd main ny apny kese ghr valy sy kha k baki masla ke mujhy zadia tension ni hy  is valy ke bht zadia pershani hy.is k bd 2,3 roz bd mujhy dopaher time khwab ata hy k ak book py lagat hy hazoor pak ka nam e mubark lekha hy aor phr us book py aik buzrag ka face ata hy aor kehty hain 2,3 kehny sy kuch ni hota …
(8)opr valy masla no 7 hony k bad main bht pershan tha .mery walid shahab ny pocha k kia masla hy.main opr vala sara masla btia.aor kha “pta ni ye bat mery munh sy aik dfa nekle hy ya do dfa.agr do dfa nekle to js trha ye (sunni mufti ) kehty hain ye to usy 4 talaqin ho gayin” .mery walid sahib ny kha ni kuch ni hoa.ye main ny is trha kha jesy bandy swal krta hy.mere talaq deny ke koi intention ni the.ye bat krty hoy main thora gusy main tha.lekin ye gusa bevi k ley ni tha blky us mufti k ley tha js jo esa kehty hain 4 kehny sy 4 ho jate hain.kia mery asa kehny sy kuch hoa?
(9)Sir ye opr vala masla hony k bad main ny apny aik dost ko message kea k agr ye alfaz houn “mere bevi ko aik talaq ho gy” to kia esa kehny sy kuch ho ga.to us ny kha k kia tm us time hosh main thy. Main ny kha han hosh main tha.Tu us time mujhy ni pta tha is condition ko kia kehty hain main ny yahe suna hoa tha k agr bndy ke neyit na b ho to talaq ho jate hy.ye mujhy bad main pta chla k ase condition main talaq ni hote jb bandy ke aqal py parda pra ho aor wo us time pory hosh aor hwas main ho.main ny apny dost ko jo kha k han hosh main tha to kia esa kehny sy kuch hoa to ni


(10)Phr main ny aik mufti shab sy phone kr k pocha k agr ye alfaz houn k “mere bevi ko aik talaq ho gay” to kia esa kehny sy kuch ho ga.opr valy masly main ny to kha tha k “ mere bevi ko 2 talaqin ho gayin”..yhan aik is ley kha k 2 kehna bura lagta tha.main ny masly k tor py aik ka pocha.main ny masly k tor py un ny ye bat poche the k agr ye alfaz houn k “mere bevi ko aik talaq ho gy”.unhian lga k main ny kha hy k “mere bevi ko aik talaq ho ge” unhon ny kha ho ge kehny sy kuch ni hoa.
Main is bat k bad bath room main betha tha k mujhy khiayl aya k mufti sabah ko sahi ni suna.main ny pocha tha k “mere bevi ko aik talq ho gay” aor unhain lga k main ny kha k “mere bevi ko aik talaq ho ge”.. phr  main ny kudh sy  kha k “ho ge nahi ho gay.sir main ny ap ko kha tha k mere bevi ko aik talaq ho gay” ye kehny k doran “mere bevi ko aik talaq ho gay” mera munh to khula tha lekin koi awaz ni bne aor mujhy shaq hy pta ni zuban b hle the ya ni.ya akyle zuban shyid kuch hle aor awaz ni bne.kia esa krny sy kuch hoa?
(11)Ak din  main akyla tha aor achank mujhy khail aya mujhy lga k main ny kha “ banda apni ko khy k main tujhy talaq” ..kia ase sort main talaq waqia ho jate hy?mre us time ase koi intention ni the.

(12)Main bht pershan rehny lg gea. khana pena choot gea.aor har time head main bht zadia pain hony lga.mere bevi ny phone py mujh sy pocha k kia bat hy pershan kun ho.agr koi bat hy to mery sath share kro.main usy samjhta rha k koi bt ni hy wo zid krny lge to main ny usy kha k “mujhy khiayl aty hain .mujhy confirm ni hy asa lgta hy k jesy mery munh sy tmhary ley koi alehdgi k alfaz nekal gy” us ny kha k ap ny kia kha k ap mujhy aledgha kea main ny kha ni ase koi bat ni hy.main ny ye bat usy is trha batana chahta tha k usy pta b chal jy k main kun pershan hun mery sath kia masla hy aor mera asa kehny sy kuch ho b na.mere is talaq deny ke koi intention ni the.kia main ny apne bevi ko jo kha kia esa kehny sy kuch hoa?
(13)ak din main word talaq ko different sentences main lga k dekh rha tha k ye munh sy nekla to ni. Main akyla tha aor main kudh sy btin krny lga k “bandy ko kabi 2 talaqin ni dena chahey” , “2 talaqin dena bht  bra gunah hy”, “ 2 talaqin dena bht bure bt hy”,” kia kehna bht bure bat hy, 2 talaqin dena”,” kia kehna bht bure bat hy, 2 talaqin “… is akhre point ka mujhy yd ni a rha k ye main ny kha b tha ya ni.ya kese aor point main “2 talaqin ” kehny k bd zra wait kea tha ya ni. Agr bandy ko shaq ho aor ache trha yd na ay to ase sort main kia kea jy.
(14)Main ny aik jga parha k agr kehny valy ke awaz itne na ho k wo sunn sky to talaq ni hote.mujhy bar bar khail ata k check to kro k awaz ay the ya ni.main lazaf “block”,”clock” ,”talab”aor “lock” kh kr dekhta.mujhy zadia yaken ise bat py hy k esa kehny k doran kbi lafaz “talaq” munh sy ni nekla.kuch thora bht shaq hy.
(15)Main apna sara masla apny walid sy discuss krta tha.jb b kuch hota to main apny walid sahib sy bt krta.to aik din main ny is bary main walid sahib sy kuch kha to unhoun ny kha kia tm ny bevi ka nam ly kr kha hy main ny kha k pta ni esy he munh nekl gea main kon sa jaan bojh kr kehta hun.kai mera esa kehny sy kuch hao.aor jb kuch hota to walid sahib sy bt krta k esy munh sy nekl gea hy kia mery unhain btany sy kuch hota to ni.main to just masly k toor py btata tha k ye masla hy.
(16)Sir agr talaq e kanyia(indirect words of talaq) ka pta na chly k us ke neyit the ya ni.to ese sort main kia kea jy..mere ak dfa bevi sy phone py bt ho rhe the to us ny kha k usy lagta hy k us k ghar valy apni shadi sy kuch ni hain to main ny kha k tm aik kam kro unhin kho k tmhaare kahein aor shadi kr dain ta k tmahry ghar valy to kuch ho jain.kia esa khny sy kuch hoa to ni.
Sir please btin k ab main kia kroun .ab kafi dino sy tbit bht khrab hy hr waqt sr k opr valy hisy main pain rehte hy.abi b hr waqt yahe dar laga rehta hy k kahein ab munh sy kuch nekla na jy.

ANSWER: mera suggestion hai ki aap kisi apney ilaqey ki mufti se mashawra karey.

regards/ahmer

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QUESTION: aslamualikum
sir yahan koi authentic mufti ni hy js sy main apna masla poch sakoon.ap please mehrbani krin aor jwb dain.Allah ap ko ajar e azeem dain aamin

ANSWER: sir bahot saarey questions aatey hai. Kyoki aapka question itna lamba hai ...mai parh nahi paa raha hoo.
Ho sakey to isko 4-5 tukro may kar dijiye aur doobara poochiye.

regards/ahmer

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QUESTION: Aslamualikum
sir mera masla b is masly jesa hy ..ap batyin k kia ye masla sahi bayin kea gea hy..
Question..
I sometimes utter the words of divorce to myself due to my suffering from constant thoughts and misgivings about divorce. Can you please clarify for me if uttering a divorce statement in such a manner is different than a deliberate pronouncement? And if so, how is it different? I was under the impression that with respect to a clear statement like "I divorce you", scholars say that an intention is NOT required. I am confused. I know for sure it is not my intention to say such silly statements, but sometimes my mind cannot stop thinking about divorce and I may have said such statements out loud to myself. Your clarification will hopefully put my doubts to rest.

Answer..
It is not required for the man to have the intention in the heart that he actually wants a divorce to take place. However, there must be an intention to deliberately make this statement against one's own wife – even if the person is joking and does not really want the divorce to happen.

Intentionality of the statement is required. What is not required is the seriousness of the speaker. A man cannot go up to his wife and declare: "I hereby divorce you." and then turn around and say: "I was only joking." It is a contractual statement. Likewise, you cannot sign a contract with a company or a bank and then turn around and say "Ha! Ha! I was only joking when I signed that contract." This is the same thing.

This means that if the divorce is mentioned as an explicit, true, deliberate pronouncement, then it takes effect, whether or not the husband was joking or serious. Our Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “There are three matters that will be taken seriously whether they were meant seriously or in jest: marriage, divorce, and taking a divorced wife back before the divorce is finalized.” [Related by Abû Dâwûd and al-Tirmidhî who declared it a sound hadîth]

This does not include the following:

1. A statement made unconsciously, accidentally, or unintentionally (for instance, a slip of the tongue or an absentminded mumble like you describe in your question). This is because intentionality of pronouncement against one's wife – though not seriousness of heart – is required for the divorce to take effect.

2. A statement given in the context of a quote. If a scholar says to his students: "If a man says the words 'I divorce my wife' he brings about a divorce." – This does not mean that the scholar has divorced his wife. Likewise, someone reading this fatwa out loud will not divorce his wife. The same can be said for a person giving testimony in court and quoting what he heard someone else say. The same would apply to an actor reading lines in a play. The reason for this is that whatever takes the ruling of a quotation is not a legal, contractual pronouncement. It does not bring about legal consequences.

Pronouncements of divorce are phrases connected with contractual clauses. A pronouncement of divorce is a contractual issue. Marriage is a contract. Divorce is a disillusion of a contract. It just does not happen accidentally or inadvertently. Intentions do not just spring into mind uncontrollably and against the person’s will. An intention is the deliberate and true motive that a person has for the action that he does. Just like buying, selling, and rental contracts, a divorce is something that only occurs deliberately.

Therefore, please stop worrying. Ignore your misgivings.

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bukhari Volumn 007, Book 063, Hadith Number 194.
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Narated By Abu Huraira : The Prophet said, "Allah has forgiven my followers the evil thoughts that occur to their minds, as long as such thoughts are not put into action or uttered." And Qatada said, "If someone divorces his wife just in his mind, such an unuttered divorce has no effect.

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