As Salammu Alaykkum, A brother asked for my hand about 2 months ago and I did estikharra so I got positive about him, I want to get married with him but now my parents don't agree because we are both students and the brother's father has to take care of our financials, and my parents don't think that it is a good idea, and they say we should wait for at least 3 more years. But That would be very hard for both of us, so what are your suggestions? What am I supposed to do? I am so sad and depressed.... Thank you and God bless you.
Bismillahir-Rahmanir-Rahim (In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful)
Actually the perception people have about istikhara is wrong. People think that Allah will give them a sign through dream etc and that is the way to know about its results. Its not exactly true.
When one does istikhara, he actually supplicates to Allah about his intentions in regards to a particular work. If that particular deed (marriage/job) etc is good for him and will benefit him, then he will be able to perform that deed, if not then Allah will block him.
However I will advise you to completely cut off with this person till Allah brings about his decision on who will be your husband.
The more you think over this the more pain and frustration you will get. So better avoid any sort of contact to make the situation lighter for your heart and soul.
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( Note: I am not a mufti, if you are in doubt or want 100% accuracy please verify the above hadith with an authentic personality. However I have not altered any hadith and presented it as and how it was found. May Allah forgive our mistakes from time to time...ameen.)