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And he Includes me in it I cannot tell you how disgusting the things he said were but after that day I have never felt safe with him As a muslim and a wife my house is suppose to be my kingdom vut it is not. I havw tried and tried for ny in laws I have no privacy in my own house. My husband s sister lives next door and they have access to the house and the key and everything to enter Which thwy do her husband comes in and out whenever he wants. And I cannot bear it anymore. I do not feel safe in my house If my husband helps me in the kitchen my mothwr in law does not like it She tells hin why do yoy wash dishes And even though my husband supports I feel like since hes so young he does not know what to do I tell him I want to live separate because that is the only way ill feel safe But he doesnt know how to approach that topic and he says he isnt financially capable. My in laws are ruining my life and I do not knoq how to deal with thus I knoq brother that you might be busy but it would help if you advice me and my husband. Allah hafiz
Another thing I would like to add is that my father in law enters my room without telling me and I was on the phone with my husband and was going into my room to sit and talk and I locked the door and all of a sudde  I hear someonw is in my bathroom I ran out and saw him come out of my room. Is this how am I suppose to live? No respect. ThEy always say to my husband why are you always helping her and all that. If we plan to go somewhere his fathers akways interferes. Please help me and may Allah reward you for your help ameen.

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Bismillahir-Rahmanir-Rahim (In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful)

Assalmalaikum

Dear Sister,

I must appreciate that you are trying to accommodate yourself in this new environment by compromising at multiple levels.
I do understand that your privacy is being infiltrated by your Father in law and you sister in law.

The visits by your sister in law will continue and you have to diplomatically solve them over time because a "change" cannot be expected overnight.
They were having full liberty before you stepped into this house..and it will be difficult for them to understand that their liberties are to be cut and they have to seek permission before they enter as you are a non-mahram to your sister in law husband.

However I will not suggest you to think of moving in a new house even when your husband is financially well off. The reason is that you should not disconnect your son with his parents. Further you both are not mature enough in order to handle your future life well.

Also let me inform you that all these problems will vanish once you give them children to play around and their focus on you will be switched on your kids.

So try to conceive as soon as possible and you will notice tremendous change in the household.

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