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We live in the US. His wife is not of Muslim faith and either am I. We have been basically dating for the past 7 months and have been very intimate with one another other then actually having penetrative sex. We act as if we are a couple, and I am head over heels in love with this man... there is just one problem.. he is still married to his wife, he still hangs out with her and prior to the other night said that he was not in love with her because she cheated on him and was not sleeping with her... well the other night after we messed around a bit we were cuddling and somehow his wife came up.. I asked him when the last time he slept with her was.. and he admitted it was 2 months ago.. I was disgusted... I did not know how to act and took him home, I later told him that I needed a few days to think about all of this because when we first started to see each other we made a deal that we would only see one another. I am just so confused on what I am supposed to do.. he is an amazing man and we have such a deep connection with one another. I just dont know how to go about this, or what the rules are for him... I am totally clueless. :(

You know the rules Ashley!
He is married. You should not ask him about his wife and family let alone private matters.
You should not be possesive othrwise none of you will be happy.
If he makes you feel like a woman and he can then he is doing it on his own risk as he cannot legally practise polygamy.
Avoid the love and emotion part and you can be great friends. If he gets a divorce and marry you then your relation will be sound and halal and legal and without stress.
Love someone for who they are and not what you think you can make them become and they will give you the world!


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Imam Habeeb


Being an Educator of Islamic Studies and Interfaith discussions for the past 25 years and having authored seventeen books and numerous articles on Islam - I think I can answer questions on Islam and other religions and issues of the Hanafi jurisprudence as well as general questions on Quran and Sharia. Love, sex and marital problems are some such topics! This is an independent volunteering service and not under any organizational banner that I may be affiliated with. My book- Intimacy and the Sacred talks about Sex and Muslims.


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