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Question Assalmualikum
My husband wants to change his field and he has also gotten admision in electrical engineering in Montreal Canada.Currently we are living in Calgary Canada.we asked some friend to do Istikarah for us but it came negative.now i am not sure what to do bcz now that friend has told that some fairy things are also under his control.this thing has put me under suspicion.is his istikarah is right?now can we perform another istikarah by ouselves?actualy my husband is not regular in offering prayers. can he do it himself?and how we will get an answer?
Answer Asalamu aleykum
I can't imagine what this friend has done, but, whatever it is, it is not from the Sunnah!
All you have to do is ask Allah sincerely to guide you in the matter. There are no fairy things, involved! And it has nothing to do with dreams, if that's what you've been told.
Here's how to offer the Istikharah prayer. You can do it yourself. In fact, you should. After you have offered it, if you try to do the right thing, you will have the best result.
Also keep in mind that a dream is reliable only if Prophet Muhammad (God bless him and grant him peace) appears in it. Otherwise it may come from Shautan or the dreamer's own oonfused mind.
Istikharah
By Mufti Ebrahim Desai
Posted: 4 Rabi-ul-Awwal 1422, 27 May 2001
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Q.) What is Istikharah and what is the proper way of performing it?
A.) Istikharah is to seek guidance from Allah when one is faced with a problem to which no solution is apparent.
Whenever a person is faced with a difficult problem, or becomes hesitant in making a decision and his knowledge of the matter is insufficient to guide him then after seeking advice from trusted friends he should turn to Allah and beseech His grace. He should willingly and with an open heart and mind supplicate for divine guidance and ask for direction so that the problem is solved in his own best interest. The du'a at such an occasion is called Istikharah.
Istikharah is in fact an invaluable teaching of Rasulullah with which the Muslims have been favoured. This blessing could give solace to many for all times to come. It is related in the Hadith that Rasulullah used to teach the Istikharah to the Sahaba, Radi-Allahu anhum, like the Qur'an is taught to children. In another Hadith it is stated that, "He does not fail who makes Istikharah and he does not regret who makes Mashwarah (consultation)."
In the Masnoon Istikharah, after one has carried out his responsibility as best as one can, one should hand over the entire matter and oneself to the limitless knowledge of Allah Ta'ala. By resorting to Istikharah one is now relieved of making a decision on his own.
Now there can be no perplexity. Only that will happen which Allah Ta'ala wills and which is good for ones own sake though one may not be able to see it immediately. It is not necessary that one must experience or see an evident change or vision. Allah Ta'ala alone knows what is best for His servants. It is related in the Hadith that "Success and good tidings for the son of Adam (Insan) is in performing Istikharah and his misfortune lies in not making Istikharah."
Method Of Istikharah
When making Istikharah begin with performing two Rakats Nafl Salat. Then with all sincerity recite the following Du'a.
Allaahumma innee astakheeruka bi ilmika wa-astaqdiruka biqudratika wa-as'aluka min fadhlika al-adheem. Fa innaka taqdiru walaa aqdiru. Wa ta'lamu walaa a'alamu wa anta allaamul ghuyoob. Allaahumma in kunta ta'lamu anna haadhal-amr khayrun liy fiy deeniy wa-ma'aashiy wa-aaqibat amriy, fa'qdruhliy wa-yassirh liy thumma baarik liy feehi. Wa in-kunta ta'lamu anna haadhal amr sharrun liy fiy deeniy wa-ma'aashiy was-'aaqibat amriy. Fa asrifh annee wa-srif 'anhu. Wa aqdurh liyal khayr hayth kaana thumma a-rdhiniy bihee
Translation: O Allah!! Behold I ask You the good through Your Knowledge, and ability through Your Power, and beg (Your favour) out of Your infinite Bounty. For surely You have Power; I have none. You know all; I know not. You are the Great Knower of all things. O Allah! If in Your Knowledge this matter be good for my faith (Deen), for my livelihood, and for the consequences of my affairs, then ordain it for me, and make it easy for me, and bless me therein. But if in Your Knowledge, this matter be bad for my faith (Deen) for my livelihood, and for the consequences of my affairs, then turn it away from me, and turn me away therefrom, and ordain for me the good wherever it be, and cause me to be pleased therewith.
While reciting this du'a when one reaches Haadhal Amr (this matter) at both places he should think of his problem.
