AboutJewel Expertise I can answer basic Japanese culture questions. I specialize in answering questions relating to geisha.
Experience I have read up on a lot of the Japanese culture today. Most of my reading is in geisha, as I have quite a collection of books and art. I also continue to talk with a previous Japanese exchange student, who I speak with about her country often.
Education/Credentials Degree in nutrition science and high school education.
Expert: Jewel Date: 12/16/2007 Subject: Help with Japanese American Relationship
Question I am male 24 years of age(USA). She is 32 year old Japanese woman. With our relationship it is everything one can ask for. BUT! I am living in Japan right now and I have to now move in May. I have known her for 6 months so far. It is
everything I chould want in a relationship. Only thing is her mother. She wants to get married but her mother does not like amerman guy bc of what they see on TV here. If you don't live in the city you do not see any people but Japanese. She told her mother some of her feeling about me and she said if we were to get married she would want to see me first. She does not know about me having to leave in May! I don't know what to do... She will not get married unless her mother ok's it. I told her that we will move back in 3 years, call her mother on phone, and every year come to Japan. I don't know if I can do anymore then meet
her mother. I need help!
Answer The Japanese family can be very traditional, and in this case I think the mother is going to continue how she thinks Americans are no matter what you do. However, you must meet her. Be VERY respectful. Ask your girlfriend what you can do to ensure you show your respect and not do something stupid (American respect may be disrespectful to the Japanese), so ask her about it. All you can really do is try not to give the mother any more silly reasons that she does not like you. Have dinner together--but also do a mock dinner with your girlfriend and she can give you ideas that you can use. Good luck!
