Expert: Brenda Martin - 1/20/2009

Question
Brenda, why are you rejecting my questions and responses? All readers are entitled to see all responses, not just the ones you choose. Why are you afraid to address this? Maybe because there is too much truth to it. The fact remains that you and other Jw's accept gifts knowing it goes against your beliefs, yet you do it anyway. You blame the givers. They are not living by your beliefs,  so their ignorance is more understandable. You fully understand the "wrong" you commit, but choose to excuse it as "politeness". Why? Please do not dismiss, it is a fair question that deserves an answer for all to see. Thank you.

Answer
whether a person is answered or not is entirely up to the "expert" so this is the last time I will answer your question as its clear to me you only want to argue.

"Much depends upon the circumstances. The giver might say: “I know that you do not celebrate the holiday. Still, I want you to have this.” You may decide that accepting the gift under those circumstances is not the same as taking part in the holiday.

Of course, if the giver is not familiar with your beliefs, you could mention that you do not observe the holiday. This would help to explain why you accept a gift but do not give one on that occasion.

On the other hand, it would be wise not to accept a gift if it is given with the clear intention of showing that you do not stick to your beliefs or that you would compromise for the sake of material gain."

In other words, it is left up to the individual's concience & the differing circumstances.

all the best
Brenda