Jehovah`s Witness/Holland has lost it (Part II)
Please permit me to post my findings to the JW Forum in studying the Abusive traits of Derrick Holland that will benefit the Board. Below are quotes from the article. "In the Abuser’s Controlling Mind"
The abuser manipulates his victim to become emotionally, psychologically and physically dependent upon him, which reduces the ability of the victim to resist his abuse and increases his control over her.
Another tactic is to be a good friend with her friends, and spread rumours about her behind her back. She becomes confused when her friends avoid her. He then comforts her to gain more psychological control over her.
He puts others down, including the victim. In his mind, “They are idiots.”
An abuser’s thought patterns lead them to often assume they know what others, including their victim, are thinking or feeling. Their assumption allows them to justify their behavior because they “know” what the other person would think or do in a given situation.
They then use this warped logic to blame these people for their behavior.
He sees no inconsistency in his behavior and feels justified in it. Yet if they hear a report that someone else has abused their loved ones, they are the first to condemn them.
Abusers refuse to accept their mistakes and avoid responsibility for their actions by trying to minimize their importance. For example, “I didn't hit you that hard,” “I only slapped you; I didn’t hit you,” or “I only hit one of the kids. I should have hit them all.”
Abusers think and speak vaguely, which lets the abuser avoid responsibility.
Abusive people are not really angrier than other people. However, they deliberately appear to be angry in order to control situations and people.
They can lose their anger instantly, when the situation requires it, as when the police knock on the door. His hysterical partner then looks out of control, while he is collected.
I can only forward a portion of the article, but in my opinion it explains Derrick Holland and his actions to a tee. http://www.agape-aid.org/abusiverelationships/in-the-abusers-controlling-mind.ph
What do you say Brother Garcia?
Very enlightening observations Danny Boy. He does fit the profile. Hence I would expect Holland will respond to this study in a very aggressive manner as it puts him on the spot. This will drive him nuts if not will launch to the roof.
Now, it's getting clearer and clearer to me who the man is. A very controlling person. In fact per my observation, he can't let go of anything unless he has a say on it and about it. He's very good at making words and phrases to mean something else, even though the meaning is quite clear. Now, I'm not sure if this a compulsion, but if it is, it's not healthy in my opinion. I wonder if he even realizes it. If not, pity the man, he seems very lost.
I mean what's he doing here? What's his goal? What's the end game?
!4+ years of non stop attack against Jehovah's Witnesses tells you something about this man's "preoccupations". Is he trying to control us? If so it's futile. He won't succeed.
In fact, he's only hurting himself and those who listen to him.
I hope he finds a way to channel his anger to something else rather than an ever consuming hatred of Jehovah's Witnesses.
Because if he doesn't, he needs to be reminded of this scripture:
“No weapon formed against you will have any success, And you will condemn any tongue that rises up against you in the judgment. This is the heritage of the servants of Jehovah, And their righteousness is from me,” declares Jehovah.” (Isaiah 54:17)