AboutBrenda Martin Expertise I have been one of Jehovah`s Witneses now for over 30 years, in those years I have brought up 4 children, teaching each of them the bible.Being one of Jehovah`s Witnesses has helped me cope with my Epilepsy and bring up a daughter with learning difficulties.I have conducted bible studies with people from nearly every denomination i.e. Muslim. Having used the bible all these years to answer peoples questions, I feel I am qualified to give any answer regarding Jehovah`s Witnesses and the bible.
Experience My experience has been one of attending bible lectures 5 times a week,taking part in these lectures in front of an audience and being with thousands of J.W. at conventions where I have seen the bible at work in peoples lives.It is truly a miracle when you see thousands of people meeting together and not one policeman needed, and not even a piece of litter in sight.It is like another world.
Question I have a male friend who is a Jehovah's Witness. He is currently married to his second wife. His first marriage was an abusive one (his wife was violent). During this time his wife left him. While separated from his wife he had a sexual relationship with the woman who is now his wife while he was still married. I understand that he was allowed to remarry because the vows were broken by adultery. Is this correct?
Now although he is married he is in love with someone other than this second wife. He and the other woman spend time together in the day. They go to work together, home together and have lunch together. He has told her that he loves her and that he knows deep inside that she is the person that he is meant to be with. The kissed, hug and hold each other practically on a daily basis. Are these actions considered as adultery to a Jehovah's Witness?
I have told him that his is not being faithful to his wife but he says that as long as he and the woman he is in love with do not have sexual relations that his is not being unfaithful.
Can you please tell me what is right and provide scriptural guidance...
Answer HI Anita, you said--"HE HAD A SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP WITH THE WOMAN WHO IS NOW HIS WIFE WHILE HE WAS STILL MARRIED. I UNDERSTAND THAT HE WAS ALLOWED TO REMARRY BECAUSE THE VOWS WERE BROKEN BY ADULTERY. IS THIS CORRECT?"
Adultery is the only grounds for divorce yes, however if he had sexual relations with anyone but his wife, he’s also the guilty party, he would have been disfellowshipped from the congregation, so I’m assuming he must have repented and said it wont happen again, if he is still attending?
NOW ALTHOUGH HE IS MARRIED HE IS IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE OTHER THAN THIS SECOND WIFE. KISSED, HUG AND HOLD EACH OTHER PRACTICALLY ON A DAILY BASIS. ARE THESE ACTIONS CONSIDERED AS ADULTERY TO A JEHOVAH'S WITNESS?
The bible says if a man even “looks longingly” at a woman he has “commited adultery in his heart” at the very least someone should have a word with him and point out his wrongdoing, if he refuses to listen, the elders, or another Witness, should be told of his conduct so it can be dealt with.
“You heard that it was said, ‘You must not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that everyone that keeps on looking at a woman so as to have a passion for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. (Matthew 5; 27)
HE SAYS THAT AS LONG AS HE AND THE WOMAN HE IS IN LOVE WITH DO NOT HAVE SEXUAL RELATIONS THAT HIS IS NOT BEING UNFAITHFUL.
Who is he kidding? I’m sure Jehovah doesn’t see it like that, and I’m sure his wife wouldn’t see it like that either. He can carry on as he is and fool his wife and people at the hall, but he cannot fool Jehovah, he sees all and will judge him accordingly.
“ If we make the statement: “We have no sin,” we are misleading ourselves and the truth is not in us. 9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous so as to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 10 If we make the statement: “We have not sinned,” we are making him a liar, and his word is not in us.” (1 John 1;8-10)
