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Question There's this guy in my year (I'll call him Luke) who used to be with my ex best friend. He's friends with everyone, especially loads of the girls in our year. He hugs his close girl mates a lot, but isn't particularly a flirt. Luke and I are really close, and I can trust him with anything. Recently, I've began to really, REALLY like him. I didn't really tell many people, just a few of my close friends. A few of my friends wanted to tell him, but I wouldn't let them. They even asked Luke to tell me I should. I had to help him convince them by telling him that 'I like someone in our year who I'm really close to and I don't want to fall out with him, and they want to tell him'. He agreed with me, but then wanted to know who it was. I, of course, didn't tell him. About a month after I started telling people, Luke texted me telling me that he knew I liked him. I played dumb, pretending I didn't know what he meant, but I avoided him the whole day, so it was kind of obvious. Later that day was our school disco, so I told myself that I would act normal around him, and not do/say anything stupid. He was hugging me loads, and apparently we were both flirting with each other loads. Neither of us slow danced with anyone, which is unlike both of us. When the last slow song came on, one of my friends was very upset, so we sat down. Where we sat just happened to be near Luke. Me and my friend were on the floor, just swaying to the music. About 30 seconds into the song, Luke helped me up and pulled me into a dance. That was over a week ago now, and Luke's been acting really dodgey with me. One minute, we're flirting and hugging and holding hands, and the next he's completely ignoring me. We haven't talked about US, if you know what I mean. He's told loads of my friends that he really likes me too, but hasn't said anything to me. Also, over time I hug him, or even see him #and sometimes just talk about him#, I go COMPLETELY red! I rarely blush, as in NEVER, so it's very embarrassing. Also, when I was at my doctors and he was taking my pulse on the machine thing, and he asked me about the disco #my mother had told him about it#, and the beeping went crazy! My heart flips and I get butterflies when I hear his name. I've cried quite a few times, on the bad days.
I guess what I want to know is if he likes me, and if I like him.
Answer Hello Lahya,
Thank you for allowing me the opportunity to answer your question.
The fact that Luke told friends that he liked you could be viewed as an indication that he truly does. The fact that he sometimes dodges you is because he may be just as nervous as you are and may not know how to confront you. I say talk to him about it, if you are too shy to talk to him in person or over the phone (which is always the best option and should be the first option) then can you talk to him via text? Are you too shy to express to him that you do like him and ask how he feel for you? Keep in mind this is someone who came to you and said that he was aware that you liked him. If he didn't care for you then I doubt he would have even mentioned anything. Talk to him. (smile)
