Expert: Lulu - 6/22/2009

Question
QUESTION: I have a HUGE crush on my best friends neighbor and I’m going absolutely crazy wondering if he likes me. He is divorced, his wife fell in love with a woman, even though she cheated on him he treats her very well after his divorce three years ago. He is a great father to his 3 children. Single at the moment. My friend regularly talks about him and what a great guy he is. I know he knows about me from my friend. They like him very much and like me too and how I’m handling my divorce.  Now we have a lot of eye contact. I caught him staring at me at the supermarket. Body language was completely facing me. He takes his children every Saturday to the scouts around my house. Sometimes I let out my dog out at the time trying to get him to notice me. He always waves friendly at me. This Saturday I deliberately did not wear underpants (turning red) under my very figure hugging sport pants. And I have a nice shape. Nothing trashy or anything like that, you just would not see the panty line and guess. I made sure back was turned to him as I walked my dog.  I’m thinking now, if he not thinking about me he MUST be gay. (I know his not) Do you think he will wonder about whether I was wearing anything underneath or will he have looked as he passed?  I guess I am just wondering, he’s single , I am single, He is attractive, I am attractive , does he like me and will he ask me out or I should just forget it.  What is he waiting for? AAARrrgh!
PS: I’m not trash AT all. Rather classy.


ANSWER: Dear Maha,

Do you actually talk to this guy? I think you should come up with some excuse to talk to him while you and your dog are out by the scout meeting. He probably likes you but maybe was traumatized by the divorce. He may not want to ask you out if he doesn't really know you that well. Also, he might be wondering about your panties if he was looking at your butt, unless he is a clueless man and didn't notice. Show him that he can trust you!
-Lulu

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QUESTION: Thanks for the swift reply!
Ok about the panty thing... that was for me a very daring thing to do. If he did notice, would he thing less of me or if he does like me would it excite him a bit, (I am really blushing here but please help me out).
I have talked to him, I made some soup for my friends when they were supposed to be coming back from holiday. None of their neighbors had their key. I walked up to his house and he look pleased to see me, He came forward and introduced himself and showed me he knew about me. He very generously offered to bring the soup to my friends and commented that it was so sweet of me. We smiled at each other and when I stood at the door, (I had a pan of soup and some flowers) waiting for me he said :you can come  This is the first time I had taken the courage to talk to him. I didn’t go in as I didn’t want to be pushy. I heard from my friends that he bought the soup almost immediately when they arrived. He must have been constantly on the lookout. My friend said that  had to to her that he didn’t get the time to talk to me because his kids had been misbehaving. I think there is something definitely there, I'm just wondering when we will transgress from waving enthusiastically at each other to actually wanting to get to know me. I can't imagine he is not curious. I am I crazy or if a man like you at one point he would like to strike up a conversation?


Answer
Hmm this man sounds kinda shy. He might not come and talk  to you, he might be waiting for you. Was the panty thing before you came to his door? I think it probably excited him because he is a man. Also, since he has children, maybe he's unsure of dating someone because of them. He might not have dated anyone since the divorce. In this case, he will need some patience if you really want him.
-Lulu