AboutLatoya Expertise Sometimes our vision can become cloudy when dealing with love and relationships, and sometimes a second voice is needed. Allow me to be that voice of reason. I will be able to provide you with advice, options & necessary steps to handle the situation at hand. I am not proclaiming to have all of the answers, but please know that I will try my best to answer your questions as affectively as possible. I can assure you that any questions you may have regarding love, relationships, If he/she really likes you, etc..will be answered in a timely manner.
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Question My name is Josh I am 17, I like 2 girls and they both seem to like me back. Theyre friends with eachother so i assume if i do go out with one of them i have one chance and going out with the other is then not gonna happen, so i really dont want to make the wrong decision. One of them (ill call her joy to make things easier), joy and me went out together a few years ago, she broke up with me for reasons she never really told me, i could easily see it being my fault due to well i rly screwed up when she tried to kiss me, i wasnt paying attention and she ended up kissing my cheek instead of my lips among other reasons. I heard from one of her friends that she was just using me to get to one of my friends that she went out with right after me. me and her friend became close and i ended going out with her about 2 years after me and joy went out. i ended up breaking up with her friend becuz i found out she was going out with 2 other guys while she was with me so i dont know how trustworthy she was(this all happened about 4-5 years ago). Joy and me have recently started to talk more again and i catch her looking at me occasionaly out of the corner of her eye or directly at me, and even if i catch her she still looks at me for a few seconds before going back to whatever she was doing, also when we talk she seems somehow happier or excited so i believe she likes me. The other girl whom i am going to call kayla, she and i have been going to the same school together for about 7 years and have only talked about 5 or 6 times, but recently i caught her looking at me over my friends shoulder while she was talking to someone so i started looking more into this and noticed she looks at me alot from across the room and if she thinks i am looking at her she will smile and on the last day of the school year she started saying my name in a funny accent whenever i was around then later when me and my friend were there she said his name in the accent twice said it wasnt good said my name once said it was perfect and continued the giggling and saying my name thing everytime she saw me that day. I like both of them and i know that neither of them have a boyfriend and i talk to both of them on facebook when i can and neither seem bothered that i do this even tho we almost never talk at school. Idk what to do in this situation i like both of them but i think i have only one chance at my choice in this and i really dont want to make pick the wrong girl go out with her for a week and find out i royally screwed up when she tells me it isnt working out so im just looking for someone elses opinion on this.
Answer Hello Josh,
Thank you for allowing me the opportunity to answer your question. You've had the opportunity to date both of these young ladies, even if it was a long time ago. You need to think back and ask yourself which one you really felt connected to. You made two key points that I need to point out though 1) Joy went out with one of your friends immediately following your break up, you heard that she was only dating you to get with you friend. 2) You broke up with the friend because you found out she was going out with 2 other guys. I ask you, are you sure that either of these girls are the right one for you? They may both be showing interest in you, but do you really want to go down that road again? If so, then again you need to think long and hard on which one you shared the most in common with. Continue to talk to each of them one on one and try to get a feel on which one may be truly sincere in giving the relationship another try. Definitely do not rush into anything, that's for sure.
