AboutLatoya Expertise Sometimes our vision can become cloudy when dealing with love and relationships, and sometimes a second voice is needed. Allow me to be that voice of reason. I will be able to provide you with advice, options & necessary steps to handle the situation at hand. I am not proclaiming to have all of the answers, but please know that I will try my best to answer your questions as affectively as possible. I can assure you that any questions you may have regarding love, relationships, If he/she really likes you, etc..will be answered in a timely manner.
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Question QUESTION: Hi I'm 16 the guy I like is 17 I've liked this guy 3 years hes in my school were not in any of the same classes and in a different year. But about 2years ago my friend who doesn't really know him asked him over bebo if he liked and he said he doesn't like me. I still kept liking and just looked at him when he was around. This went on for about a year just me looking at him. The the next year of school in the early months a different one of my friends while she was with me and he walked past us told him that I like him and he looked back and smiled at me. And now when I look at him he holds my gaze I'm always the one to look away first and sometimes we look at each other from across the room and he holds the gaze still I always look away. I always look at him when I see him at his locker so he knows that I will look at him so he looks back at me all the time. Then a month or something later weeks later my friend got his number from her friend who knows him. Then I texted him and in school then stopped for a longtime then a good few months later started texting him .Now for about 8/9 weeks we have been speaking regulary but only through text. I text him maybe once or twice a week and we talk for about 2-3hours and he texts back pretty quick but sometimes later. He always uses smileys in every one of his texts to me even if what he was saying wasn't a happy thing. When I ask him a simple question sometimes he responds being funny. Once I texted him and we were talking and he asked me about my friend(who he doesn't know) but he only asked her age and nothing else and not if she was single or anything like than and hasn't said anything about her since. We haven't actually spoken face to face but we know who each other is. when we talk through text if his free text had run out and he had credit he would text me back to let me know so I didn't think he was ignoring me.We do have quite a lot in common and can talk about anything really. We talk about each other a lot aswell. And we did spoke everyday one time. I told him once recently I went to a disco he told me to tell him when the next one was. I think he might have been indicating sort of asking me to ask him out to go to one. What do you think about all this? Hes really confusing me. thanks I think hes a shy / quiet kind of guy (I hope I didn't confuse with this message)
thanks
ANSWER: Hello Patricia,
Thank you for allowing me the opportunity to answer your question. It is a possibility that this guy may be interested and just may be wanting to take things slowly. It's really hard to tell at this point if he does or if he's just being friendly. Does he ever initiate the text or is it always your doing? Why do you guys only use texting as a form of communication? Please follow-up, thanks!
Latoya
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QUESTION: I always text him first but he always replies. the week when we spoke nearly everyday he texted me first once and we spoke for arond 2 hours that day. He goes to my school were in a different year to each other and not in the same class and I got his number from my friend becuase her friend knows him and gave his number to my friend and then my friend gave it to me. At first i think he was confused about how I got his number but he didn't care after that and we started talking normal in text. We know who each other is to see but haven't tried talking face to face. I'm shy to go up to him and I think hes the type of guy who waits for someone to talk to him first if he doesn't know them well I do see him look at me sometimes but I can't lok him in the eye so i end up just turning away.. were off for summer now and I texted him and replied back as normal.. then recently
about a week ago I texted him and he didn't reply , then left it a few days texted him didn't reply. I realised he had been on holiday but hes back. Then left a full week then texted him "hey hows your summer going?" and he didn't reply not even to say his texts have ran out or anything. He a shy ,quiet kind of guy. Whats he doing??? hes stopped replying to me... .or I coud be just over reacting and he has no credit or free texts to tell me. He would normally let me know and text back saying his texts have ran out.
What do you get from all this now?thanks
Answer Hello Patricia,
Let him come to you. You've already shown signs of being interested, no matter how shy a guy is they're rarely too shy to text. It's the face to face contact that has them running. Allow him to pursue you, some guys enjoy the chase and find it as a bit of a turn off when a girl keeps trying to get their attention. Put the ball in his court and see what move he decides to take.
