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How are you doing my friend? I am the same Mehdi who asked you before about the conflicts of his new relationship. Those issues about hurt feelings seems to be resolved between us.She has problems with my past specially with my child and her place in my heart, believing that she will always be second. We were supposed to go out together on a casual and friend-only basis,and did so for a week, but somehow it turned to something very emotional. It seems to have frightened her, she seems to think our union in wedding is almost impossible and out of fear of dependency and getting hurt, has restricted our meetings.She claims this is for ME, not herself, and she would do anything to avoid hurting me, even if I don't like it. She obviously likes me a great deal but is fighting with her feelings.I want to help her overcome the negative thoughts in her mind but don't know what to do. Should I distance myself a little from her, going along with her restriction plans, give her time and space? What if this is the beginning of the end? I fear I might lose her. Please help me.
P.S. by the way she hasn't married before, that romantic interest I told you about was just a suitor.
Answer Hello Mehdi,
I'm well thank you. Sorry to hear that she hasn't come around yet, these things take time..sometimes a great length of time, remember making her comfortable enough to give her heart again is not something that will happen over night. You should try explaining to her that you have room in your heart for both your child and her. Let her know that you would love for her to get to know your child & vice versa. Have you ever invited her out on a gathering with you and your child? See if she will be willing to open up and go with you on an outing. Express to her how important it would be to you and how good it would be for the both of you and what you're both wanting to accomplish in your unity. Keep me posted & good luck!
