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Question There is this guy Sam that I go to school with and we just recently started
talking again. I have no idea how to figure out what he thinks of us being
together... Here's some background information.
At the beg. of the year, Sam really liked this girl Molly. She wouldn't give him
the time of day. When me and Sam met, he asked me for advice about Molly,
and (not liking him at the time) I told him that maybe they were better off as
friends. Sam and I started hanging out more and I really started liking him.
We texted regularly and hung out one-on-one a few times. All my friends
said that he was going to ask me to homecoming.
Meanwhile, Molly didn't have a homecoming date. She came back to Sam and
expressed her love for him, causing him to think twice about me. Sam ended
up asking his best friend Jane.
Sam and I didn't talk for a while... in fact not until about March. We went ice
skating with a group of people, and we were totally flirting all night. We
would walk in the halls at school and he would wait for me at my locker.
Everyone, including me, thought this time we were headed towards a
relationship, when all of a sudden we stopped talking.
This summer, about 3 weeks ago, he texted me saying that he missed
spending time with me and maybe we could see a movie sometime. So
yesterday we went to see Transformers just me and him. We held hands and
he carressed my arms and upper leg, all very sensual. After our "date", we
talked on the phone and he said he would love to do it again sometime. We
might go to lunch and swimming in 2 days.
So finally my question... What is he thinking?? Does he just want someone to
flirt with over the summer, or this time could it be the road to a real
relationship? I'm scared to put my heart in it because I don't want to be let go
for a 3rd time. Advice?
Your help is greatly appreciated.
Answer Hello Hannah,
Thank you for allowing me to answer your question. I'm going to tell you this based on personal experience, I've learned that when a guy truly desires to be with you..NO ONE, and I mean NO ONE can come in the way of that. He may truly care for you, but what it sounds like to me is he does truly enjoy spending time with you, but for some reason he's not truly ready to commit to you. He hangs with you and show affection until someone else comes along and catches his eye, then he disappears. Once the relationship goes sour then he runs back to you, why?? Because he knows that he can. My suggestion is this Hannah, keep your heart guarded until he can prove to you that he is truly sincere. You should have a talk with him and explain to him how his actions made you feel and ask him what is it that he is looking for and if he even can see himself being with you. You must have the talk and basically let him know that if you do decide to give him another chance the next time he disappears don't even bother coming back. Once you tell him this, you must stand firm. Indecisive men will sway back and fourth and keep coming back to any woman who will allow them to do so, show him that you deserve more and you are definitely worth more by putting your foot down. I know you care for him, but show him that you care for yourself & your feelings a whole lot more. I'm her if and when needed, stay strong and good luck!
