AboutLatoya Expertise Sometimes our vision can become cloudy when dealing with love and relationships, and sometimes a second voice is needed. Allow me to be that voice of reason. I will be able to provide you with advice, options & necessary steps to handle the situation at hand. I am not proclaiming to have all of the answers, but please know that I will try my best to answer your questions as affectively as possible. I can assure you that any questions you may have regarding love, relationships, If he/she really likes you, etc..will be answered in a timely manner.
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First of all I'd like to apologize for taking so much of your time. The reason behind this child issue is the fact that I see my child once a week and her mother gives her to me. There is no way around this (seeing my ex) because this is what the law decided. And this new girl thinks it is possible for our past romance to rekindle and so ruin her life if she marries me. She clearly said so last night, and also I got her to say she does love me. But she is so unbelievably afraid of potential problems that could come between us! I am beginning to think this fear stems from some psychological problem and is not normal. How could anyone be so stubborn in face of real love and promise of an ideal married life? It took me five hours of continuous talking, reasoning and using endearments to get her to admit she loved me, something we both knew existed anyway! She knows what I can give her but is afraid to take it for the fear of POSSIBLY losing it!! It is driving me crazy.She does not believe in her heart that her future life with me won't be threatened by my old love.Is there nothing more I can do? I think I have done everything.
P.S.I know this may sound childish and immature behaviour to you, but so is the quality of male-female relationships here. We are behind the times due to restrictions imposed upon us by the Islamic Regime.We haven't had enough oppurtunities to learn.
Answer Hello Mehdi,
No need to apologize, helping is what I volunteer to do. (smile) Again I'm going to suggest that you take her out on outing with you and your child. Allow her to be with you when you pick up your child, she would stay in the car of course. Tell your ex-wife to have your child come outside while you stand outside of the car, within time she will see that there is nothing to fear..HOPEFULLY. Is your ex-wife drama filled? If not, then I'm sure she would not have any problems with the arrangements. What you have shared does not sound like childish or immature behavior at all Mehdi. What it does sound like is a man who really want to be with a woman who is so insecure that it's causing her to delay her happiness with the man that she loves. Hang in there Mehdi, hopefully this approach will work, if not....I don't know what more to say, I'm running out of options. LOL! I'll still continue to assist in any way that I can.
