This is probably going to turn out to be a very long question..but please, jut bare with me! I thought the more information I gave, the better.
My name's Nicolette. I'm 21, and a university student. And, I have an enormous crush on a bloke I go to school with. His name's Nicholas, he's 30. We met in an acting class two years ago - we are both majoring in theatre,same concentration, and even plan on going to graduate school for the exact same thing.
Just to give you some background, we have a LOT in common. As I said, we're studying the same thing in school, we're the same religion, have similar political views, have the exact same amount of siblings, have similar tastes in films and music - we're even about the same height. :)
Now, I suppose you could say that I've pretty much always had a crush on Nicholas. He's charming, sweet, funny, tender, caring, honest, inspiring...and yes, he's even handsome. :) I guess, I never told him I liked him because he never gave me any real indication that he reciprocated, so I just kep it a secret. But - whenever Nicholas sees me, he's all sunshine and smiles! He gives me the biggest smiles you ever did see, hugs me, asks where I'm going/what I'm doing, how's my day, etc.
Well, a few months back, I was walking with a chum of mine when I ran into Nicholas. He was smiling the whole time we were talking, then he went to class. When he went away, my chum said that I should watch out, because it seemed to her like Nicholas was in love with me. At first I just waved her off, you know, convinced she was just being silly.
But then, a few days after that, I got a text from Nicholas like, raving about Obama being president. One thing leads to another, next thing I know, he's asked me if I want to go see a play with him. I accepted, but that's when he stopped texting. I phoned him telling him I wanted to go with him, but still,no response.
Whenever I saw him round campus after that, he was still the same way, all sunshine and smiles. So, I don't think he was blowing me off or anything,at least I don't think so. Recently, I've started to see him round on campus a lot more. Now, it's like he's kind of afraid to hug me or something. He's always seemed a little nervous when it comes to physical contact with me, (he's shy) but now, even more so. I even had to tell him once it was ok to hug me.
He invited me to a play he was in - I was planning on going anyway, but I told him I'd be there.
I saw him during the show- my goodness, he was absolutely brilliant! I swear, I fell for him all over. I found him afterwords and sang my praises to him, he just smiled (blushing a little) and said,''stop it.'' Then, this girl came up, and he goes and hugs her, and for just a moment, stopped talking to me. She's one of my classmates, but we don't talk. After a moment, he kept looking over at me and smiling. He had to go take pictures with the cast then, but the other girl stayed on, and boy, did she give me the nastiest look..so, she's got me wondering..
In spite of that, a few weeks later, I got wind of some auditions that were going on round town, and I knew that it would be something Nicholas would love. So I told him about it, and encouraged him to make an appointment to audition. I was expecting him to get back to me telling me he was busy or something, but no! He text messaged me telling me he had phoned to make an appointment. About half an hour later, he phoned me asking for directions and advice. He thanked me what must have been twenty times, hung up but called me back when he said he was going to, and told me he would call me next day to tell me about his audition.
I wasn't expecting him to, but he actually kept his promise! He phoned me, said it was fun and he did well,and again thanked me for telling him a bunch of times. We had a department gathering that day, and he said that he didn't see me there. So.. he was looking for me, then? He also told me he's going to be out of town all summer, from May 14-August 19 in New York, visiting his mum and sisters. Now don't get me wrong, I'm glad he told me this, but really, WHY would he tell me this? Just for conversation?
Anyway, so a couple of days before he left for the summer, I sent him a text message wishing him a good summer, and he sent the same wish back with a smiley face. All of his texts in this particular conversation came with smiley faces, and a lot of messages he's sent me in the past have smiley faces as well. I've talked to him once since the summer started. He texted me first, saying hi (with a smiley face) and asking me how was my summer. We talked thru text for about twenty minutes, I even told him my birthday was next week, and he wished me a happy birthday! When he said bye his last text was with a smiley face as well. I haven't heard from him since, that was a couple of weeks ago- and I'm kinda afraid to push the envelope here.
I know that this has probably been a very long and boring for you, but what do you make of this? Do you think Nicholas fancies me at all? What shall I do?
Thank you for your time!
Answer Hi Nicolette,
First, I think it's absolutely adorable that you two almost have the same name (Nicholas).
Now, do I think he fancies you? Well, there is a chance he may be attracted to you. However, you are both young and he may be inexperienced at how to approach a woman he is attracted to. I always say "never listen to what a man says, watch what he does". Nicholas's actions definitely imply he is attracted to you. And the smiley faces in the texts indicates that you made him smile. That is always a good thing. Right now he is out of town, in New York -- which is such a wonderful city with so many activities to partake up -- so he will be busy for a few weeks and might not always have time to reply to your texts right away. Every so often, let him know that you are still thinking about him, just to keep you on his mind. Once he comes back into town in August, I think it would be a good idea for you to tell him you feel. There's no sense in playing games. And if he doesn't want a relationship, you can always remain friends. Good luck!
